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Texting a girl you like is an excellent way to learn more about her and engage in mutual flirtation. Winning her heart takes time, but by taking gradual steps and keeping conversations interesting, you can show her how amazing you are. We’ve compiled some tips on texting techniques that can help her quickly develop a liking for you!
Steps
Keep conversations light and positive.
Your goal is to have fun and flirt, not to make the conversation heavy! When texting the girl you like, talk about casual topics like school, work, and hobbies. Save deeper conversations for in-person meetings.
- Conveying tone through text can be tricky, which is why heavier topics are better discussed face-to-face.
- Try discussing topics like pets, friends, and your favorite pastimes.
Use open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing smoothly.
Open-ended questions can also help maintain a smooth conversation. These questions cannot be answered with just a “yes” or “no” but require a more detailed response. When chatting, keep a few open-ended questions ready and avoid questions that can be answered with a single word. Here are some basic open-ended questions:
- “How was your day today?”
- “How did work go today?”
- “What’s the weather like at the beach today?”
Ask her about herself.
You can get to know her while making her feel special. Talk about her friends, family, school, or work to learn more about her daily life. Share some information about yourself too, so she can learn more about you! Try asking questions like:
- “What do you like to do on weekends?”
- “How many siblings do you have?”
- “How long have you been in your profession?”
- “What subjects are you studying at school?”
Bring up her interests.
This way, you can show her that you remember the things she’s shared with you. Additionally, it’s a great way to keep the conversation going. She’ll be excited to chat about the things she loves, especially with someone as attentive as you! Try sending messages like:
- “Did you watch ‘The Apple Tree Blooms’ last night? That episode was so intense!”
- “How was your rollerblading session last weekend? Did you try any new tricks?”
- “I heard your favorite band is coming to town! Did you get tickets yet?”
Compliment her.
Flatter her a little by mentioning something you admire about her. You could talk about her personality, her radiant smile, or her sense of humor. A few well-placed compliments will let her know your feelings go beyond friendship, and she’ll likely be thrilled! Say things like:
- “You have such a great sense of humor.”
- “Your smile is absolutely captivating.”
- “You’re so kind! I’m lucky to know you.”
Send her some memes to make her laugh.
Show off your sense of humor to make her like you even more. You can dig through your own meme collection or browse social media for something funny. Find a meme you think will make her laugh and send it with a message like, “This made me think of you!”
- If you’re unsure about her humor preferences, just send a meme you find amusing.
Create an inside joke between the two of you.
If you’ve known her for a while, try this approach. An inside joke that only the two of you understand can create a special bond, something she won’t share with anyone else. For example, maybe you once sent a hilariously misspelled text that had you both laughing nonstop, or you shared a clip of a guy tripping on the street that left you in stitches. Try sending messages like:
- “Heading out for a run now. Hope I don’t run into a lamppost like that guy!”
- “Good luck on your test today (not ‘taste’)!”
Drop a few flirty emojis.
The right emojis can add a romantic touch to your messages. You don’t need to use them in every text, but try sprinkling them in occasionally. Emojis like ❤️, 😘, and 🤗 show that you like her in a romantic way.
- For example, you could text, “How’s your day going? ❤️”
- Or “Can’t wait to see you😘”
Gauge her interest with a sweet message.
Start making her think of you in a more romantic way. After chatting for a while, you can send messages hinting that you like her and enjoy talking to her. Try sending texts like:
- “No one’s perfect, but you’re scarily close to it.”
- “Only your messages make me smile like an idiot.”
- “Lately, I wake up smiling every morning. It’s all your fault.”
Avoid texting multiple times in a row.
Sometimes girls don’t reply to texts, and that’s okay. You can send two messages in a row in this case, but then give her some space. You can’t know why someone isn’t texting back, and chances are, it has nothing to do with you! She might just be busy and will reply when she has time.
Ask her out.
If things seem to be going well, suggest meeting up for a date. Keep it casual and natural. If she likes you, you can plan to hang out, pick a time and place, and meet in person to chat. You could text:
- “Any plans this weekend? I was thinking of checking out that new café if you’d like to join me.”
- “I’ll be in your area next week. Are you free to meet up?”
- Some girls might feel a bit shy about meeting someone in person, especially if you haven’t met offline before. If that’s the case, give her some time and continue texting until she’s ready to meet.
Try to handle rejection gracefully.
She might not be interested in you, and that’s perfectly okay! If you ask her out and she doesn’t seem interested, move on and remember there are plenty of other options out there. Not being a match simply means you weren’t meant for each other.
- Everyone faces rejection at some point in life. All you can do is keep looking forward!
