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You've got your crush's number, but unsure what to text them to win their affection? No worries—flirting, impressing, and making them like you over text is simpler than it sounds. We’ve put together the best tips for winning them over, including real text examples you can send your crush.
How to Make Someone Like You via Text
Show genuine interest by asking open-ended questions and offering compliments. Playfully flirt with them by teasing and making them laugh. Keep the tone fun and light, and don’t hesitate to send them a selfie now and then. Let them initiate conversations sometimes, too.
Steps
Start the conversation by sharing what you're up to.
A great opening message can make your crush think you’re more intriguing. You want to capture your crush’s attention from the start, but a simple “hi” or “hey” might feel a bit dull. Instead, mention something fun and interesting you’re doing, which will get them excited to talk to you.
- “Hey 😊 Just finished watching the sunset at the beach—it was absolutely stunning!”
- “Hi! Hope your day’s been awesome 😀 I spent the afternoon roller skating, and it was so much fun.”
- “Hey! Spent the whole day drawing and finally finished my piece haha. How about you?”
Ask them about themselves.
Showing curiosity about your crush reveals that you're genuinely interested in them. Avoid simple yes/no questions that could kill the conversation. Instead, open with a quirky icebreaker or ask about their day. If you want to connect more deeply, ask questions that invite them to share more about their life.
- “Got any fun plans for the weekend?”
- “What’s been the most exciting part of your day so far?”
- “What’s one of your favorite childhood memories?”
- “Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?”
Send a playful text to lighten the mood.
Show off your humor to make your crush laugh. If you have a great joke or a funny story, share it with your crush! You can even poke fun at yourself to make them feel more at ease texting you. Making them laugh will impress your crush, and they'll want to keep the conversation going.
- “Have you ever been camping?? It’s really in-tents!”
- “OMG, that reminds me of a funny story from when I was a kid! Wait until you hear this!”
- “I just dropped a whole bag of popcorn on the floor. Want some? 😂”
Give them a genuine compliment.
Your crush will appreciate hearing what you admire about them. You could compliment a text they sent, their looks, or anything else about your crush that you find attractive. They’ll feel flattered and want to continue talking with you because you noticed something special about them.
- “I love how you’re always so sweet to me 😊”
- “I just saw your latest Instagram post! You look incredible!”
- “Did you know you’re the nicest person I’ve ever met??”
Tease them in a playful way.
Lightly tease your crush if you want to flirt in a fun way. Once you get comfortable with your crush, joke around with them and poke a little fun. Add emojis to your text to show you’re just kidding. As long as you keep it friendly, your crush will enjoy it and play along. Just be mindful of how they respond to make sure they’re not upset.
- “Wow, I’ve never heard of these bands. You’re SUCH a hipster 😉”
- “You think you can beat me at arm-wrestling? Alright Muscles, you’re on 😜”
- “Wait, You’ve never seen Harry Potter? Is everything okay? 🤣”
Share a photo with them.
A fun selfie or a picture of what you’re up to will definitely grab your crush’s attention. Send a selfie, a picture of your current activity, or even a funny meme to make them laugh. Follow up with a brief text to make it easier for your crush to respond.
- Send a picture of the sunset and say, “This is so stunning! Wish you were here!”
- After a sexy selfie, try, “Just got this new outfit! What do you think?”
- Send a cute animal meme and say, “LOL this totally reminds me of you!”
Flirt with them.
Flirting shows your crush you want something more than just friendship. If they haven’t caught on yet, it’s time to make your intentions clear. Let them know how much you think about them, or talk about fun things you’d love to do together, hinting at what they’re missing. Your crush will likely get the hint and might flirt back if they feel the same.
- “This movie is so scary, I wish you were here to keep me safe 😏”
- “I’ve got some fun ideas for what we could do together 😉”
- “The only thing that would make today perfect is if you were here with me 😘”
Keep the conversation light and fun.
Your crush will be more likely to text you if your conversations are fun and engaging. Avoid complaining or focusing on negative topics that could bring down the mood. Instead, keep things lively and entertaining for both of you. Don’t forget to sprinkle in some exclamation points or emojis to make it clear that you're excited and eager to chat with them.
Let your crush reach out to you every once in a while.
Stop over-texting so your crush can chase after you. Even though you’re excited to talk, sending long texts or always starting the conversation might make you seem too eager. Take a little break from texting to let your crush wonder what you’re up to and initiate the next chat.
- Try to match the number of texts you send with how many your crush sends. This helps keep the conversation balanced and prevents over-texting.
Invite them to meet up in person.
Spending time together in person helps strengthen your bond. While texting is great for getting to know one another, there’s something special about meeting in person. Once you've established a connection, suggest hanging out casually to see how the chemistry flows. If you're feeling adventurous, ask them out on a romantic date.
- “I’ve really enjoyed our chats! Want to grab a coffee later today?”
- “I can’t wait to see you. Are you free this weekend?”
- “If I asked you out for dinner this Saturday, would you be up for it?”
- Reader Poll: We surveyed 408 Mytour readers about what type of invitation would excite a Sagittarius woman, and 58% said Going on a spontaneous day trip. [Take Poll]
- If you know she's a Sagittarius born in December, why not invite her for a spontaneous adventure?
Stay composed if they stop responding.
Your crush might have a valid reason for not replying right away. If you're waiting for a response, it’s possible they’re just busy or away from their phone. Be patient and give them some time before you send a quick follow-up to nudge them. However, if you don’t hear back within a couple of days, it might be an indication that they're not as interested.
- Try saying, “Hey, I hope you’re having a great day! What did you get up to?”
- Or, “I’m not sure if you saw my last message, but I was wondering what your plans are for the weekend?”
- If your crush goes silent, don’t let it bring you down. There are plenty of other people you can chat with!
Join the conversation...
Ugh, I’m so flustered with this guy I’ve been texting! He always has the perfect things to say and is super cute about it, but my messages just seem so... dull. I really like him and want to keep him interested, but I need to improve my texting skills fast. Please, someone teach me the right things to say so I don’t lose him!
Cher Gopman
Dating Coach
Dating Coach
If you're trying to flirt over text, it's fine to sprinkle in a few emojis now and then. Just don't overdo it, as that could come off as overly eager. A well-placed emoji can keep things playful and light. Make sure to avoid dull questions and always keep the conversation moving forward. Don't dwell too long on any one topic. Keep things fun, so the other person remains interested in continuing the chat. Show your genuine interest and shared interests, and that will get them excited to engage with you too.
A little joking or teasing can set a playful tone, which is great for flirting.
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