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Each culture has its own set of expectations when it comes to dating and romance. What one culture may find romantic, another might deem inappropriate or too forward. In the end, it all depends on what the individual considers acceptable, but learning about the culture of someone you're interested in can certainly help. If you're trying to impress a French girl, here are some tips to guide you.
Steps
Steer Clear of the 'Ugly American' Stereotype. Even if you're not American, it's wise to avoid acting like the stereotypical 'Ugly American'. Characteristics to avoid include being overly loud, complaining about differences from home, or dressing too casually. Some tips to help (you can find more in How to Avoid Looking Like an American Tourist):
- Dress a bit smarter than usual. In France, casual wear like athletic shoes, baseball caps, hoodies, t-shirts, jeans, or shorts isn't as common. The French girl you're interested in is likely not wearing clothes that look like she just got out of bed or from the gym. You shouldn't either!
- Embrace the French way of eating. Don't ask for ketchup, salt, pepper, ice in your drink, or decaf coffee. Eat slowly. Enjoy your food and take your time.
- Refrain from bragging, losing your temper, arguing loudly, or doing anything that attracts unnecessary attention to yourself—especially if you don’t see others doing it.
Be Open-Minded. The French tend to be very open-minded. If you have strong conservative views on politics or religion, understand that this French girl may hold more liberal beliefs. Engaging in heated debates about what 'should be' is a surefire way to ruin the romance. Be ready to embrace Chacun ses goûts—the French expression for 'different strokes for different folks'.
Exercise Patience. A French journalist who dated women on both sides of the Atlantic noted that women in certain cultures, particularly American, tend to approach dating in a more 'contractual' way—they want to know the relationship's status, its direction, and more. You may notice that French women are often less eager to define the relationship and may seem quieter and more reserved than what you're accustomed to. If this catches you off guard, you might find it helpful to read How to Stop Being Needy and How to Tame a Free Spirit. Don't rush to introduce her to your parents.
Keep it casual and relaxed. A writer on French dating habits observed that French women prefer getting to know someone through relaxed activities like dinner parties and walks, rather than a formal date that feels more like a job interview. If you're looking to spend more time with a French girl, think about hosting your own dinner party or inviting her for a leisurely walk.
