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Today, it seems that everyone primarily communicates through text messages and emails. As a result, the handwritten love letter of the past has become something truly special and rare. These letters are tangible mementos that can be held, read over and over again, and cherished in your heart. They are priceless gifts for the person you love. Writing a love letter is not difficult, but it requires time and thought to genuinely express your true feelings.
Steps
Preparing to Write the Letter
Overcoming Fear. You are in control of what you choose to write or not to write. There's no need to mimic another love letter template or quote poetry or cheesy lines if it doesn’t resonate with you. The best thing you can do is to express your true self in the letter.
Set the Mood. Find a quiet and private place, and close the door behind you. Eliminate as many distractions as possible, including noise, smart devices, and anything else that might take your focus away. Creating the right atmosphere can spark inspiration—light some candles or play music to enhance the mood.
- Perhaps there’s a song that reminds you of your loved one. Find it and play it while you reflect.
- You could also bring along a picture of your partner to look at.
Reflect on Your Emotions. We all have moments when we feel deeply connected to those we love. Tap into that feeling—a moment when all of your attention is on them, and you are fully immersed in that love. Try to relive the physical and emotional sensations of that moment as vividly as you can. Jot down a few words that describe how you feel, and note any phrases that come to mind to express your emotions.
Think About Your Loved One. There’s a reason you love them. Something about them drew you in and continues to keep you in love. Whether it’s their appearance, personality, integrity, charm, humor, or strength, let them know how much you cherish these qualities. Share with them everything you love about them, as well as what you appreciate about how they make you feel.
- Ask yourself: What does your partner mean to you? Are they your best friend? Your soulmate? Make a list of all the things you admire and love about them.
- Now, turn that list into complete sentences. “I love the softness of your hand in mine,” or “I love how you look at me and make me feel like everything will be okay,” or “Your smile and carefree laughter brighten my every day.”
- Don’t just focus on external features. This might make your letter seem superficial. But don’t completely avoid physical attraction either—it should feel natural. Love letters are meant to express affection respectfully, not necessarily to be overtly sexual.
Use Special Memories Between You Two. You likely have many precious moments with your partner. There might be a memory that only the two of you share—experiences that have deepened your bond.
- Think about the first time you met or when you felt the spark of love. Was there a moment when you knew you wanted to be with them? Write about that memory and everything you remember—what you were wearing, where it happened, and how you felt walking towards them, whether nervous or confident.
Think About the Future. Your relationship has a past, but it also has a future that you want to nurture in your love letter. If you’re currently apart, write about all the things you want to do together when you reunite. If you’ve made promises, discuss some of the dreams and aspirations you both have for a future together. Write down everything you envision for your life ahead as a couple.
Consider if this could be your last day alive. Throughout history, many love letters have been sent from soldiers on the battlefield. This perspective may give you valuable insight into what you would say if tomorrow didn’t come. Write down all those precious words and don’t hold back.
Draft the Letter
Write a Rough Draft. At this stage, don’t worry too much about grammar and spelling. The message is what truly matters. Once you’ve finished, you can go back and edit the letter. A handwritten letter is your opportunity to express your feelings, and right now, focus on complete honesty and openness about what you feel and why.
- Take your time and don’t rush. If this is your first love letter, remember that things move at their own pace. Accept that you may encounter difficulties or make mistakes.
- Use your own voice to convey your emotions. Don’t try to copy how others write or speak. This letter should be uniquely yours and should be delivered in a way only you can. It must be sincere and reflect your true self on each page.
- Think of your partner while writing and consider the stage of your relationship. Confessing feelings to someone for the first time might be different than writing a letter to your spouse of 20 years.
- Be sure to express love somewhere in your letter. A simple “I love you” is enough.
Start the Letter. Let your loved one know why you are writing this letter. You want to make it clear from the beginning that this is a love letter. Think about what led you to decide to write it. You might say something like, “Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the love I have for you, and I want you to know just how deeply I love you.”
- Don’t insult your loved one or belittle yourself or your feelings in the letter. Be confident in what you feel and say to avoid confusion.
Write the Main Body of the Letter. This is where you share memories, stories, and all the things you appreciate about your partner. Tell them what you love about them, why you love them, how they make you feel, and remind them of a special moment in your relationship. Show them how your life has improved since meeting them and how incomplete it would be without them.
- The goal of a love letter is to express deep emotions that might be difficult to convey in person. Take this opportunity to say more than you usually would and take it to a deeper level. Use the ideas you jotted down earlier to guide you.
- If you’re not a poet, consider including a poem from a poet you admire or a quote that better articulates what you’re trying to express. Be sure to include the author’s name to avoid plagiarism and mislead your partner into thinking it’s your own work.
- If you want to be a little cheesy, go ahead. But be genuine, and if your partner loves you, they will appreciate the letter too.
Tích cực. Tất cả mọi thứ mà bạn đang viết có lẽ sẽ được lưu giữ. Cố gắng hết sức để tránh việc đưa ra những vấn đề tiêu cực trong lá thư. Cũng đừng phê phán hay mập mờ. Đây là cơ hội để bạn nói cho người bạn yêu biết rằng họ khiến bạn cảm thấy hạnh phúc ra sao và cuộc sống của bạn trở nên tuyệt vời như thế nào khi có họ, chứ không phải để xem lại những lỗi lầm hay nhắc lại những kỷ niệm không đẹp.
- Một cách hữu ích để giữ cho lá thư đi theo hướng tích cực là nói về những gì mà bạn đang cảm nhận ngay lúc này. Đúng vậy, bạn muốn nhắc lại những câu chuyện đặc biệt về việc bạn đã rơi vào lưới tình với người đó như thế nào nhưng bạn cũng muốn đảm bảo nửa kia của bạn biết rằng bạn vẫn yêu thương họ hay thậm chí còn nhiều hơn lúc ban đầu.
- Thử nói gì đó như “Giờ đây, đã mười năm trôi qua, và anh vẫn thấy bồi hồi khi em mỉm cười với anh”, hoặc “Anh yêu em nhiều hơn cả trước đây”.
Lặp lại hẹn ước của hai bạn. Hãy nói về tương lai mà bạn hy vọng được trải qua cùng nhau. Nhắc nhở họ về tầm quan trọng của tình yêu này cũng như việc bạn muốn nó kéo dài đến bao lâu. Nói cho họ biết mức độ quyết tâm của bạn và sẽ không có gì cản trở được tình yêu của bạn, chung thủy và tận tâm, hãy để cho họ được biết. Miêu tả mãi mãi có ý nghĩa như thế nào đối với bạn và nó sẽ trở nên như thế nào nếu có nửa kia cùng đồng hành.
Kết thư. Bạn cũng cần kết thúc lá thư một cách tích cực. Bạn có thể kết thúc bằng một câu nói diễn tả ngắn gọn về cảm nhận của bạn về tình yêu của cả hai. Bạn có thể viết điều gì đó như, “Mong rằng anh sẽ mơ thấy em đêm nay”, hoặc “Anh không thể chờ được đến ngày mà chúng mình sẽ ở bên nhau trọn đời”.
Hoàn thành lá thư
Chọn loại giấy bút đẹp. Tặng nửa kia một thứ gì đó đẹp đẽ mà họ có thể chạm vào, cảm nhận và nếu may mắn thì là nằm dưới gối họ mỗi đêm. Tốt hơn hết là bạn nên viết lên màu giấy đơn giản (như màu trắng), êm dịu (ví dụ như màu kem) hoặc gợi cảm (như màu da). Chọn giấy chất lượng cao sẽ mang lại cảm giác tốt hơn khi chạm vào và thể hiện sự quan tâm mà bạn dành cho lá thư nhiều đến thế nào.
- Nếu bạn không có đồ dùng giấy viết, bạn có thể sử dụng giấy trơn hoặc trang sổ. Thông điệp mà bạn muốn gửi gắm quan trọng hơn rất nhiều so với lại giấy mà bạn viết.
- Bạn có thể biến giấy bình thường thành màu giấy cổ điển hoặc thậm chí là tự tạo giấy viết cho mình nếu bạn muốn làm gì đó thú vị.
- Sử dụng mực đen hoặc mực nâu để giúp lá thư trông gần gũi và thanh nhã. Tránh sử dụng “màu mực của giáo viên” như xanh và đỏ bởi nó sẽ giống như bạn đang chấm điểm một bài tập về nhà.
Use an Intimate Greeting. Address them as "my love", "dearest", "beautiful", "the one I love most", or a nickname, if it feels right. If you’re already in a romantic relationship, you can say "yours" (e.g., "To ____ my dearest"). But avoid doing this if you're using the letter to express your feelings for the first time, as it could seem overly possessive. Instead, opt for a more neutral form of address, such as "To ____ my darling".
Include the Date. Be sure to write the date of the letter (day, month, year). This will serve as a keepsake of your love that can be preserved for years to come. The date is significant as it will bring your love back to the moment they received your letter. It will be read repeatedly, so understand that some of your words in this letter may be quoted back to you later.
Rewrite the Letter. Use the draft to create your final version. Ensure that the paper is clean, with no smudges or ink stains, and that the handwriting is legible. Beautiful handwriting is important, so take your time and strive to write as neatly as possible. You’ll want your partner to be able to read it easily and enjoy every word.
Close the Letter. This is your farewell. Some appropriate closings include "Your love", "Forever by your side", "Hug and kiss you", "Kisses", "Fondly", or "Always love you". If suitable, add a nickname, an inside joke, or even respond to a question that has been left unanswered for a long time to make it more personal.
- If you want to make it more romantic, consider a simple but heartfelt closing like "Forever loving you" or "Always yours".
Add a Personal Touch. You can include something special with the letter as another memento of your love. It could be a petal, a favorite tea bag, or even a spritz of your perfume or essential oils on the paper. You might also imprint a handprint on the back of the letter or leave a lipstick mark on the page.
Place the Letter in an Envelope. Fold the side with the writing inward and slide it into an envelope addressed to the recipient. You can opt for an envelope matching the stationery for an added effect. If you like, you can even make your own envelope or fold the letter into one.
- Alternatively, you can roll the letter up and tie it with a ribbon or string.
- A romantic stamp, like one with a bouquet of flowers, can make the envelope even more charming. You could even stick the stamp upside down, which traditionally means "I love you".
Create a Surprise for Your Partner. Send the letter via Special Delivery if you truly want to catch their attention. Surprises can help your message stand out and make the experience more emotional and memorable for your partner. You could also hide the letter under their pillow, in a drawer, or place it in a dish during dinner or breakfast.
- You might want to wait a bit before sending the letter. After finishing, set it aside, review it, and check for any spelling mistakes or things you might regret. Then send it off and prepare for a warm reaction from your partner.
Write More Love Letters. Don't make it a one-time event. Let writing letters to the person you care about become a habit, whether on birthdays, anniversaries, during time apart, while together, or just for no special reason at all. The more you write, the easier writing love letters will become, and your letters will hold even more meaning.
Advice
- Be mindful of what you say.
- The most important thing when writing a love letter is that it should come from the heart. Don’t just copy a few cheesy romantic quotes from the internet, and don’t have friends or family write it for you. Let your heart speak.
- Love letters are great for "refreshing" a relationship, whether it’s for a special occasion or something similar.
- If you spray perfume on the letter, make sure you don’t get it wet!
- To stand out, try writing the letter in a fancy script. This not only forces you to think carefully about what you say, but it also makes the letter appear much more impressive.
- When writing a letter, avoid rambling. Get straight to the point – if your letter is about your eternal love for your partner, focus on that. Don’t write irrelevant things like “I love your dog’s collar, it matches your eyes” or something unrelated like that.
Warning
- Remember that not everyone may view a romantic love letter in the same way you do. If the recipient doesn’t seem to appreciate it, try not to take offense. It’s a symbol of your love, and ideally, the real joy should come from writing and giving the letter, not necessarily from the reaction you get back.
