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You’ve matched with a girl on Bumble, so now what? Once she reaches out, what should you say to make a lasting impression and keep the conversation going? Showing genuine interest and keeping things engaging is easier than you think. Read on for the best advice, tricks, and example messages to help turn your matches into real dates!
Steps
Comment on something from her profile.
Her photos and bio are full of great conversation starters. Take a moment to browse through your match's pictures and bio to spot something intriguing you can discuss. You could point out something cool in her photo background, respond to a question she’s answered in her bio, or see if you share any common interests.
- “Is that the Eiffel Tower? I’ve always dreamed of going to France! What was the highlight of your trip?”
- “I never imagined I’d meet someone who enjoys pineapple on pizza too. We’re clearly on the same page!”
- “I think it’s awesome that you’re studying film! Was there a particular movie that sparked your interest in it?”
Ask her questions that require more than a yes or no answer.
Questions help create a deeper connection and encourage her to open up. Open-ended questions that start with ‘what’ or ‘how’ invite more detailed answers. You could ask about her childhood, her favorite activities, or her experiences. When she answers, be sure to share your own response as well, so she gets to know you better.
- “What’s your favorite memory from when you were a kid?”
- “How would you ideally spend a perfect day off?”
- “What’s the best advice anyone has ever given you?”
Try using a playful one-liner.
Let your sense of humor shine so she knows you’re fun to talk to. Even though they may be a bit cheesy, a good joke will make her laugh and brighten her day. You can throw in a silly one-liner when the conversation pauses or joke about something from her profile—just keep it lighthearted and friendly.
- “Have I told you that your dog is adorable? You’re not bad looking yourself either 😏”
- “I know it’s been a long day, but I’m finally here! What were your other two wishes?”
- “I’m usually not a fan of dried fruit, but I’d definitely go on a date with you 😛”
Give her a compliment.
Show your match that you’re genuinely interested in her. Look for something that stands out in her profile or from your conversation. You can compliment her skills, interests, or an attractive feature. Just be careful not to make any inappropriate comments at the start to avoid making her feel uncomfortable.
- “Your art is amazing! You’re such a talented painter!”
- “Your eyes are mesmerizing! I couldn’t look away from your profile!”
- “You’ve got fantastic music taste. I can’t wait to ask for some recommendations!”
Send a fun Bumble Emoji when you swipe right.
Your match will see your emoji reaction as soon as she matches with you. While women make the first move on Bumble, you can still start things off positively with an emoji and a comment. Simply press the react button on one of her photos or bio and choose the emoji you want to send. When she matches with you, she’ll instantly see your reaction and comment.
- This is a great way to help break the ice and get the conversation flowing without her needing to make the first move.
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Mimicking the way your match communicates makes her feel more at ease. If she sends quick, concise messages, try responding in a similar way. This will show that you’re keeping up with the conversation, making her feel more comfortable and helping the chat flow smoothly.
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Her: “Hey, how’s it going?”
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Her: “No way! We’re both fans of Maroon 5!!”
You: “Seriously?! I love them too! What’s your favorite track?”
Hold off on texting again until you get a reply.
Sending multiple texts in a row might make you seem too eager. Instead of bombarding her with messages, send one at a time so it doesn’t overwhelm her. After she responds, you can reply at a similar pace, so it doesn’t appear as though you’re anxiously awaiting her reply.
- If you find yourself itching to message her, try doing something you enjoy to distract yourself.
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Pay attention to grammar and spelling.
Your match will appreciate the effort you put into your messages. Relying too much on shortcuts and misspelled words can make your messages hard to understand and might put her off. To keep her engaged, make sure to double-check your messages for clarity and errors before sending them off.
Try a video call with your match.
You’ll strengthen your bond by seeing each other face-to-face. Bumble lets you start a video chat with your match before meeting in person. Pick a time when both of you are free to chat so you can connect visually and vocally. It’ll be much more natural to talk when you can hear her voice and see her expressions.
- Don’t forget to dress up a bit to look your best for your match.
Plan a time to meet in person.
It’s crucial to test the chemistry in real life. After spending some time chatting with your match, gather the courage to ask her out for a face-to-face meeting. Choose a public place where you can easily meet and have a conversation. Depending on how comfortable you both are, you can plan a casual hangout or a romantic date.
- “I’ve really enjoyed talking to you here. How about grabbing a coffee this weekend?”
- “I feel a great connection here. When can I take you out to dinner?”
- “Would you like to meet up this week? I know a great place for drinks.”
Move forward if the conversation fades.
You deserve to connect with someone who’s genuinely excited to talk to you. If your match expires or doesn’t reply, don’t waste time focusing on one person. There are plenty of other people on Bumble who are excited to chat with you—you just need to get back out there and keep matching.
- If your match is about to expire and she hasn’t messaged, you can extend the match once for an additional 24 hours. This will show her that you’re eager to connect and might encourage her to start the conversation.
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