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Approaching a man who may be bisexual but hasn’t acknowledged it to himself or others can feel daunting. If you’re interested in someone you suspect might be bisexual, it’s wise to observe potential indicators of his interest before making a move. If he appears receptive, you might consider light flirting or even inviting him out.
Steps to Follow
Identifying Signals of Attraction
Observe his body language. A man’s posture and behavior around you can reveal early signs of interest. When someone is attracted, they often face the other person, lean in, or stand nearby, and may display subtle cues such as:
- Smiling and maintaining eye contact. These are universal indicators of attraction. If he’s interested, he’ll likely glance your way and smile, even from a distance.
- Quick eyebrow raise. Known as an eyebrow flash, this involuntary reaction often occurs when someone feels drawn to another person. Look for this brief movement when you first meet his gaze.
- Slightly parted lips. This subtle gesture often happens instinctively when someone is attracted. Watch for it during moments of eye contact if he’s interested.
Look for self-grooming behaviors. Preening or self-grooming actions can signal his interest in you. If he’s adjusting his clothing, fixing his hair, or making other efforts to enhance his appearance, these are strong indicators that he might be attracted to you.
- For instance, you might observe him casually straightening his shirt during your conversation or tidying his beard to ensure it looks presentable.
Pay attention to subtle physical contact. If he’s genuinely interested, he might initiate light, brief touches, such as placing a hand on your arm or shoulder. These small gestures can be his way of expressing attraction.
- For example, if he laughs at your joke while briefly holding your forearm, it could be a sign he finds you appealing.
Compare his behavior with others. To gauge his interest, observe how he interacts with you versus others. If he’s noticeably more attentive, warm, or affectionate toward you than anyone else, it could mean he’s attracted to you.
- For instance, if he laughs enthusiastically at your jokes but remains indifferent to others’, it might indicate his interest in you.
Engaging in Flirtation
Use smiles and eye contact. Simple yet effective flirtation techniques include smiling and maintaining eye contact. Whether you’re across the room or seated together, these gestures can subtly convey your interest. While friendly, they’re a low-risk way to start flirting.
- Try holding eye contact for a few seconds, glancing away, and then looking back. If he’s still watching you, it could mean he’s attracted. A warm smile can further signal your interest.
Initiate a conversation. Before inviting him out, it’s a good idea to learn more about him and discover shared interests. This ensures your date won’t fall flat. Start by asking about his hobbies, preferences, and background. Consider questions like:
- What’s your profession?
- What activities do you enjoy in your free time?
- What’s your favorite type of music?
- Did you grow up in this area?
- Do you have any pets?
- Are you enjoying yourself?
Offer genuine compliments. Compliments are always well-received, whether you’re flirting or not. By praising him, you can boost his confidence and subtly convey your attraction. If he’s interested, he might return the compliment; if not, he’ll likely thank you and move on.
- Try saying, “You have an amazing sense of style! That suit looks fantastic on you.”
- Or, be a bit daring with, “I hope I’m not being too forward, but your eyes are stunning.”
Incorporate light physical contact. Playful touches can be a fun way to flirt and test his interest. Use brief, gentle touches to show your attraction, which might encourage him to respond in kind.
- For instance, lightly touch his arm or shoulder when he says something amusing or intriguing.
- If you’re feeling bold, place a hand on his back to guide him through a crowded space.
- Reader Poll: We surveyed 769 Mytour readers, and 63% agreed that playful banter is the strongest sign of chemistry with a guy. [Take Poll]
Planning a Date
Drop subtle hints. If you’re unsure about his interest in dating men, a cautious approach might be best. You can hint at your interest in a low-pressure way, giving him the chance to decline politely.
- For example, say, “I’m looking for someone to join me for a movie this Saturday. Do you know anyone who might be interested?”
- Or, try, “I want to ask this guy out, but I’m not sure if he’s into men. What would you do in my shoes?”
Take a straightforward approach. If subtle hints aren’t effective or you want clarity about his interest in dating men, be direct. Ask him plainly if he dates guys. If he responds positively, you can then suggest going out together.
- For instance, you could say, “Do you date men, or are you only interested in women?”
- If he says he’s open to dating both, follow up with, “That’s great! We should definitely plan something soon.”
- If he declines, there might be a brief awkward moment, but it will pass. Lighten the mood by saying something like, “No worries! I just like to ask because it’s hard to tell sometimes.”
Propose a specific plan. If he’s giving you clear positive signals, go ahead and ask him out. Choose an activity you both would enjoy based on your conversations and suggest a specific time and place.
- For example, say, “Since we both enjoy horror films, let’s catch the new one this Saturday. What time works for you?”
- Or, try, “I’ve been wanting to try that new Indian restaurant. How about we go together this Thursday?”
