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Uncover his actions and interpret his unspoken emotions
Whether he’s a close friend or just someone you’re curious about, there’s a sense that he may be harboring feelings for you. Even though he hasn’t directly expressed anything, his actions seem to tell a different story. You might get that instinctive feeling that something more is going on. So, what are the clues that he's into you? By knowing the key signs, you'll be able to spot his hidden emotions with ease. With expert advice and psychological insights, we're revealing the telltale indicators. Let's dive right in!
This article draws on an interview with our dating coach, Candice Mostisser. Explore the full interview here.
Things You Should Be Aware Of
- Observe his body language closely. If he likes you, he might lean in or angle his body towards you, even during quiet moments.
- Is he frequently finding ways to be alone with you? A guy who’s into you will seize every chance to be near you, especially in one-on-one settings.
- Think back to past conversations: does he seem to have an impressive recall when it comes to you? If he’s interested, he’s likely to remember even the smallest details about what you say.
Actions to Take
He’s caught staring at you.
He’s trying to sneak a look at you, but in a subtle way. When a guy likes you, he’ll undoubtedly find moments to observe you, whether out of curiosity or because he’s enjoying the view! However, if he’s trying to stay cool, he won’t want you to notice. If your eyes meet, he’ll likely look away quickly.
- Or, if he’s extra sneaky, you may never catch him in the act. You could ask your friends to keep an eye on him when you’re in the same room. With their help, you might gather all the clues you need.
He’s constantly cracking jokes.
Humor is a magnetic quality, and he’s eager to impress you with it. If he’s interested in you, he’ll want to show off his wit whenever possible. In social situations, he might deliver jokes or playful comments, even teasing his friends to capture your attention. To him, this is a clever way to stand out in front of you without giving away his true feelings—yet, of course, you can see right through it!
- Alternatively, he may not tell jokes but still act more animated when you’re around. He might become the loudest in the group, organize plans, or challenge his friends. Even his friends might notice this change—that’s how you can tell he’s pulling out all the stops to impress you!
He seems nervous around you.
Blushing, sweating, and shaking are clear signs of a major crush. While some guys become more confident when they like someone, others completely lose their composure. If he’s trying to hide his feelings, he might act casual, ignore you, or seem laid-back. However, if you pay close attention, you'll notice subtle signs that reveal he’s feeling nervous. Why? Because he wants you to like him back!
- You might catch him blushing, avoiding your gaze, sweating, trembling, twitching in his hands or face, or stuttering when talking to you. These are all signs of nervousness.
He’s always there for you.
He’s your personal hero whenever you need help. No matter how inconvenient it is for him, he’s always available when you need assistance. Whether it’s helping you move, finding something you lost, or offering emotional support, he’s always there. He wants you to realize how good of a ‘friend’ he is, hoping that you’ll start seeing him as more...
- This is especially telling if he doesn’t extend this generosity to others. If he saves his best behavior just for you, he might be hiding a big crush.
Mytour Quiz: Does My Crush Like Me?
Having a crush is one of the best feelings, but also one of the most nerve-wracking! Those exciting butterflies can quickly shift into anxiety. You start obsessing over every little move, wondering if they like you too. But don’t worry, we’ve got the ultimate quiz to help! Answer these questions to uncover the secret signs that your crush might be into you. Stop overthinking and start enjoying the process. Take this quiz to find out once and for all!
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Does your crush follow you on social media?
He “accidentally” makes physical contact with you.
If he's into you, he'll be excited when you casually brush knees. Whenever you're together, he looks for opportunities to be near you. He might do this without saying a word—by sitting close on the couch, brushing shoulders, or touching your back as he walks by at a party. Alternatively, he could find a reason to touch you, such as brushing an eyelash off your face, comparing your hand size to his, or tapping your knee as he asks you something.
- However, if he's a little nervous, there's a chance he won't take this step. The thought of revealing his feelings too openly through a simple touch may make him hesitate, though you can be sure he’s thinking about it!
He's always suggesting new plans to hang out with you.
His aim is to create more chances for you both to hang out together. Whenever you two spend time together, he's genuinely excited, even if he doesn't openly express it. How can you tell? He puts in the effort to ensure the good times keep coming. He might keep adding more things to do when you're together or casually suggest more plans later in the week.
- For instance, if you mention something you enjoy, he might try to make it a reason to hang out: “Oh, you like Marvel movies? Me too. We have to catch the new Ant-Man movie when it drops.”
Others have mentioned that he talks about you.
It appears that, even when you're not around, you’re never far from his thoughts. Friends, acquaintances, and even strangers often comment that you're all he talks about. He might not show it when you're around, but for some reason, you're constantly the topic of his conversation with others. Why? Because when a guy likes you, he's bound to think about you all the time. So when he's hanging out with friends, it's tough for him to remember stories that don't involve you.
- “Ollie mentions you all the time. Just today, he was joking about how you’re always running late for everything.”
He’s subtly protective of you.
You’re not his, but sometimes his actions suggest otherwise. He doesn't want anyone messing with you, or you getting into trouble. It's almost as if he genuinely cares about you, but doesn't know how to express it directly. He’s clearly invested in your well-being, even though you two aren’t exactly close.
- “I don’t think you should be flirting with Sal. He’s a player. You deserve someone who treats you with respect.”
He often makes an effort to find time alone with you.
Spending time with you one-on-one is something he always aims for. When a guy has feelings for you (but is trying to keep it under wraps), his goal is to have private moments with you, though he won’t be overt about it. Instead of directly asking, like ‘Would you like to go somewhere more private?’, he’ll take advantage of natural moments for you both to be alone.
- For example, if the group is heading to a concert, he’ll want to share the Uber with you. Or if everyone’s getting breakfast, he’ll volunteer to come along just so he can browse the menu with you. He’s an opportunist when it comes to moments alone with you!
He often praises you.
Although he may try to downplay it, he can’t stop himself from admiring you. When a guy is into you, his mind naturally runs through all the things that make you unique and incredible. He may try to hold back from being too complimentary, but given all the things he notices about you, some flattery will inevitably come through! He may comment on your appearance, personality, or values.
- Extra points if the compliment is indirect. This suggests he holds you in high regard, even if he didn’t mean for you to notice. For example, when forming a trivia team, he might push for you to join because he obviously thinks you’re intelligent!
He gets possessive, though he tries to mask it.
He might not have asked you out yet, but he’s definitely feeling jealous of those who have. If he’s trying to play it cool about his feelings, he won’t come out and say, 'Wow, I wish I could be the one to take you on a date...'. Instead, the signs will be subtle. He could look uncomfortable when you mention a date you have planned or even leave the room when you talk about someone else you're interested in. He might even seem irritated, though he might not openly admit that he’s jealous:
- “This conversation is so boring. I can’t keep listening to Hannah gush about some guy. Can we talk about something else?”
He opens up to you more than usual.
He wants to feel emotionally close to you, even if he can't openly express that yet. When you talk to him, conversations might dive deep very quickly. Why? Because he trusts you and feels a connection, even if he’s not ready to say it out loud. He might talk about his personal fears, past relationships, or his job—but if he seems intent on forming a bond with you, it’s a clear sign that he likes you (even if he’s keeping it under wraps!).
- This is especially true if he shares his thoughts on what he wants in a relationship. Not only is he trying to bond, but he’s subtly revealing what he desires in a partner (perhaps because he dreams of having that with you!).
He pays close attention to you.
When a guy likes you, he’ll notice even the smallest details. He remembered your birthday, even though it had been ages since you last mentioned it. He noticed that you got a haircut, even if it was just a minor trim. He hasn’t confessed his feelings yet, but it’s clear he’s keeping a close eye on you—and that’s a solid sign of interest. You’re always on his mind, so he notices everything!
- This could lead him to comment on the little things that others miss. For example, he might say: “You always seem so full of energy in the mornings. I love it. It’s hilarious!”
He never leaves you hanging with his replies.
He enjoys talking to you too much to leave your messages unread. If a guy likes you (but he’s trying to play it cool), his texting habits will give him away. He might text you a lot and respond quickly. On the other hand, he could leave you waiting for hours, only to send random memes just to keep the conversation going without making his feelings obvious. But one thing is certain: he’ll always reply. He can’t resist chatting with you.
- If his texting style seems unpredictable, it’s another clue. This could mean he’s trying to figure out how to deal with his feelings for you.
He enjoys teasing you.
He flirts by poking fun at you, without being too obvious. Teasing is often his way of getting closer to you without showing his cards. It’s a playful way to flirt, all while pretending it’s just a joke. With teasing, he can always play it off as harmless fun (even if you know the real reason!).
- "Drew, you are the loudest person I've ever met. I swear, I'm going to need to buy ear plugs before we hang out next time!"
He keeps showing up wherever you are.
Perhaps he's too shy to directly ask you out, so he has to play it smart. Whenever he hears you’ll be somewhere, he’s eager to show up as well. It almost seems like he wants to be at every event you're attending. This isn't by chance—he's never more excited to be somewhere than when he knows you'll be there!
- Haven’t noticed this yet? Test it! Next time you’re in a group, casually mention that you might leave to grab some snacks. See who wants to come with you. If he agrees, that's a positive sign!
He grins when you’re near.
To him, you're probably the most thrilling person in the world. You might even sense a change in his energy when you enter the room. Before, he was acting normal, but once you show up, it's like he's floating. Everything you say is met with a smile, making you feel like the most amazing person in the room. And to him, you definitely are!
- If this happens, he’ll likely laugh at everything you say. You might feel like a world-class comedian when you're around him.
He’s constantly turned toward you.
If a guy has feelings for you, you’ll notice he can’t seem to look away. If he’s trying to keep his cool, you might have to notice the subtler signs—like his body language. Here’s a tip: if he's really focused on you, he may always be facing you, even when you're not talking. He might even lean in when you speak. Pay attention to his feet—they often give it away! If they’re pointed at you, that could be a sign he likes you.
- Some people say that when someone secretly likes you, they’ll gaze at you when they laugh. So, next time you're in a large group and someone tells a joke, glance at him. If he’s smiling directly at you, that's a great sign!
He keeps touching his face.
If he's fidgeting, it may indicate he's anxious. When a guy has feelings for you, he'll often express them through subtle, subconscious actions. He may brush his eyebrow, scratch his face repeatedly, or cover his mouth with his hand. These are all signs pointing to one conclusion: he likes you!
- This is especially true if he frequently touches his lips. It's likely that he’s imagining kissing you or trying to get you to think about kissing him.
He’s difficult to interpret.
If he's confused about his emotions, it could result in strange behavior. When a guy is honest about his feelings for you, it’s usually obvious. If he only wants to be friends, that's also easy to notice. However, if he's conflicted, he might act in ways that leave you scratching your head (What on earth is going through his mind?).
- If you feel completely lost about how he feels, whether it's platonic or romantic, that could indicate he has feelings for you. And if your friends notice unusual, unreadable vibes too, it might mean you're his hidden crush!
He behaves inconsistently with you.
If he’s being hot and cold, it might be because he’s unsure of how to behave. He’s in a tough spot, caught between wanting to show affection but not wanting to reveal too much. This can cause a lot of erratic behavior with you. One day, he may seem eager to talk to you, but the next, he pulls back completely. Why? He feels uncertain and out of his depth when it comes to you!
- Pro tip: Want to be sure? Ask him directly about the hot and cold behavior. If he gets nervous or changes the subject fast, it's a strong sign he's into you.
- However, know that this kind of inconsistency could also be linked to him being married or in another relationship. In that case, it's best to distance yourself.
- Reader Poll: We surveyed 1391 Mytour readers, and 52% of them agreed that if a married man shows interest, the best approach is to distance yourself. [Take Poll]
His friends already know about you.
If this guy likes you, he’s probably already shared it with his friends. So, you're meeting someone from his group, and you go to introduce yourself, but they stop you. "Oh, we know who you are already. Claire, right?" How did they know your name? Because he’s mentioned having a crush on you, and they’ve been keeping an eye out for you.
- You might also catch them exchanging knowing glances or smiles that seem like they’re in on a secret. If his friends appear to be hiding something, it could mean he’s told them that he likes you.
He makes jokes about your relationship.
He seems fixated on defining your connection. You might joke about being the single friends, or laugh about how your other friends want you to get together. If you two often joke about what you are to each other, and he’s the one keeping the joke alive, he might be putting more thought into it than he lets on. While it may seem like a playful comment now, down the line, he could be hoping for a real conversation about it.
- He might even call you two an “old married couple” because of how close you are, joking about your playful bickering. Or he could joke about you both being wingmen for each other—even though, in reality, you're the one he really wants to impress!
