Things to Say When Your Ex Tells You They Miss You

Breakups are never easy, but things get even more complicated when your ex unexpectedly reaches out and says they miss you. Before you respond, take a look at these possible replies and choose one that reflects your true feelings. With just the right words, you can let your ex know how you really feel about them (and whether or not you miss them).

You don't have to waste your time on him if you don't want to. If your relationship ended on bad terms or if he cheated on you, it's probably best to not reply at all. If he keeps reaching out, you might want to consider blocking his number altogether.

• This approach is also recommended if he contacts you at odd hours. If he's only messaging you late at night or when he's drunk, he may not be very sincere.

This is a polite way to reject someone. If you've moved on (or are trying to), it's important to be clear with him. This response is gentle yet firm, letting him know that he should move on as well.

• Don't be surprised if he doesn't reply to a message like this. He might be feeling sad and need some time alone.
• If he responds angrily, it might be best to block his number.

Remind him that he should be focusing on someone else now. While hearing your ex say "I miss you" might feel nice, if he's already dating someone new, it's unfair to that person for you to keep in touch with him. Let your ex know that you can't keep talking while he's in a relationship.

• His new partner probably doesn't know that you two are still in contact. It wouldn't be right for him to be sneaking behind their back like that.

Tell him that you're seeing someone else. Messaging an ex when you're in a relationship is risky, so you might prefer to ignore his texts. However, if your ex doesn't know you're dating someone new, you could let him know so he stops reaching out (hopefully). If your relationship with your current partner is serious, you might even tell him that your ex has been texting you. This way, you avoid any future suspicions. Even if you're not in a new relationship, you can still use this excuse to ask your ex to stop contacting you.

People often remember the good parts of a past relationship. However, you can remind your ex about the reasons why you broke up. If he asks what you mean, bring up the issues between you two and explain why you can't get back together. For example, you could say, 'Do you remember how different our tastes were? In the end, you hung out with your friends, and I spent time with mine. We barely had any time for each other.'

If you were the one who was left, let him explain. This is a good response if you both never officially ended things. If he reaches out without offering an explanation, let him speak about what he did and why he did it. If he truly wants to get back together, he should be able to explain everything clearly without hesitation.

Câu trả lời này sẽ khiến anh ta bật ngửa. Nếu bạn thấy ý tưởng người cũ nhớ bạn thật là buồn cười hoặc bạn không thể tin rằng anh ta lại nhắn cho bạn câu đó sau tất cả những gì đã làm, bạn chỉ cần gửi lại một biểu tượng mặt cười hoặc “haha”. Đây là cách phản hồi khá cay nghiệt, và anh ta sẽ hiểu ý. Nếu thông minh thì anh ta sẽ không đáp lại nữa.

• Đây là phản hồi hoàn hảo nếu anh ta cố liên lạc với bạn vào đêm muộn hoặc khi đang say xỉn.

Lờ hẳn câu “Anh nhớ em”. Nếu trước đó hai người có nói chuyện, bạn cứ tiếp tục câu chuyện như không có gì xảy ra. Nếu bỗng dưng nhận được tin nhắn như vậy, bạn có thể nhắn lại điều gì đó như:

• “À, em không nhớ chiếc áo len màu xanh của em có ở chỗ anh không. Em tìm khắp nơi mà không thấy.”
• “Ờ, em nhớ chú cún của anh. Nó có khoẻ không?”

Say that you've moved on. This short and direct answer will likely end his hopes and force him to reflect. If he continues reaching out, you can block his number or tell him to stop contacting you.

• Don’t let your ex pull on your heartstrings when you’re trying to move forward. If you feel at peace without him, keep walking down your own path!

Only choose this response if you're considering getting back together with him. Before replying, take time to deeply reflect on why the relationship ended and what the future might hold. If you feel that you and he could reconnect, send him the response he might be hoping to hear.

• If you receive a late-night text or the message seems like it's from someone who's intoxicated, now isn't the time to discuss your relationship. However, if your ex contacts you during the day and wants to talk, you could consider opening up to him.