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You’ve finally mustered the courage to ask out the girl you’ve always admired, and she said yes! After a few amazing dates, your relationship is now official. You’ve won her heart, and now the challenge is to keep it. There are countless thoughtful gestures you can make to demonstrate your love and care for her. With a bit of effort, you can ensure she stays by your side for the long haul.
This article draws insights from an interview with licensed marriage and family therapist Allen Wagner. Read the full interview here.
Steps to Follow
Daily Gestures to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special
Express your love for her. This step may seem simple, but it holds immense value. Over time, people in long-term relationships often forget to say those three important words: "I love you." Keeping it straightforward is more effective than lengthy declarations of affection.
- Casually remind her of your love during stressful moments. It will boost her mood and show your support when she needs it most.
- Make it a habit to say it when you part ways and when you reunite. Repeating "I love you" never loses its charm.
- Experiment with different ways to express your feelings. Phrases like "You mean the world to me" or "I can’t imagine life without you" add variety and keep your expressions heartfelt.
Create intimate moments together. Offer her a hug when she’s feeling down or overjoyed by exciting news. Always greet her with a kiss when you meet and say goodbye with one when you part. Physical closeness is essential in a relationship, whether it’s a passionate kiss or more intimate moments, depending on the situation.
- Respect her need for space when she requires it. Being overly pushy for physical intimacy isn’t endearing. Ensure she’s comfortable and willing before initiating any contact.
- Sometimes, small gestures like a gentle pat on the back or a soothing shoulder rub can provide comfort during both happy and tough times. Gauge the situation to choose the most appropriate form of touch.
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Pay attention to her words. Get to know her deeply by asking about her past, interests, dislikes, hobbies, career, family, friends, and more. When she shares her stories, listen attentively. If you both start speaking at the same time, let her go first. This demonstrates respect and shows you value her thoughts.
- Show genuine interest in her stories, even if the topic doesn’t captivate you. Your engagement reflects your care for her passions.
- Stay present during conversations. Nod, offer input, or ask follow-up questions. If she becomes emotional, comfort her with a hug, a shoulder rub, or by wiping her tears.
- Take mental notes of her preferences. Her stories might reveal hints, like a favorite piece of jewelry or a disliked artist, which you can use to surprise her later.
Exude confidence around her. This doesn’t mean acting tough. Instead, maintain good posture, place your arm around her, and speak clearly and calmly. It’s endearing when you can communicate openly without fearing her judgment.
- Confidence also means being vulnerable. Share your concerns, whether it’s about your parents’ health or something you feel needs improvement in the relationship.
- Discuss your dreams and fantasies, whether they’re about your future together or personal desires. Being open can help you discover shared interests and deepen your connection.
Adding Uniqueness to Your Relationship
Make an effort to look good for her. If you often appear disheveled, try tidying up. Get a fresh haircut, shave off rough stubble, and opt for a dress shirt and khakis instead of casual wear.
- Take time to groom yourself—bath, deodorant, and a light body spray can go a long way.
- Brush your teeth at least twice daily. She’ll appreciate the effort when you lean in for a kiss.
- Taking care of your appearance isn’t just about hygiene—it shows you value her and want to be someone she’s proud to be with.
Make her feel extraordinary. Avoid treating her like just another friend. Demonstrate that she holds the highest place in your life. This might involve skipping a night out with friends to watch football and instead spending the evening cuddling with her. Focus less on venting about your own issues and more on discussing her challenges, achievements, and your shared aspirations as a couple.
Plan romantic outings for your girlfriend. Even in a committed relationship, dates are essential to show her you still cherish and want to impress her. Treat her to a fancy dinner, visit a place she’s always dreamed of, like New York, or enjoy a local theater performance. Surprise her with unique experiences, such as a trip to an amusement park or a hiking adventure. The options are limitless.
- On dates, it’s courteous to offer to pay. If you’ve agreed to split costs, stick to your usual arrangement.
- Dates are perfect for deepening your connection and fostering intimacy.
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Practice chivalry. Hold doors open for her, pull out her chair, and pick up anything she drops. On public transport, offer her your seat if none are available. Carry her bags when needed. When walking together, position yourself on the side closest to the street to shield her from traffic and rain splashes.
- Though some of these gestures may seem traditional, they demonstrate your care and consideration for her.
- Never feel that treating your girlfriend with respect diminishes your masculinity. Not only will she appreciate your thoughtful actions, but you’ll also feel fulfilled seeing her smile.
Celebrate special occasions. Make Valentine’s Day memorable and never forget her birthday. Purchase a card from a local store or create a handmade one. Surprise her with gifts like stuffed animals, chocolates, or flowers.
- For your anniversary, go the extra mile. Reserve a table at a fine restaurant or prepare a special meal at home. Dress elegantly, groom yourself well, and decorate the space with rose petals or anniversary-themed decorations.
- Consider drawing her a warm bubble bath on her birthday. Add rose petals to the water for a romantic and surprising touch.
Exceeding Expectations
Stay connected with her. Send her a heartfelt text saying "I love you" or asking about her day. Call her to check if she needs anything from the store or if she’s facing any issues. If you’re apart for a while, consider sending an email to share more detailed thoughts than a brief text.
- Writing a letter is another timeless way to express your feelings. Though old-fashioned, the effort of writing and mailing a letter will deeply touch her and show your sincerity.
Visit her parents. This thoughtful gesture helps you bond with her family. Plan a visit, especially around holidays, and bring a gift like chocolates or flowers. It leaves a positive impression on both her and her parents.
- Compliment their home and ask your girlfriend about their interests beforehand to keep the conversation flowing. Avoid controversial topics like politics during the first meeting.
- Express how much you enjoy being with their daughter and how amazing she is, but avoid overdoing it or being overly affectionate in front of them.
Participate in her hobbies. Joining an activity she loves, even if it’s not your forte, shows your dedication. Whether it’s a book club, tennis, hiking, or morning runs, your effort will mean a lot to her. The goal is to demonstrate that you value her interests.
- Respect her need for personal space. While shared activities are great, every relationship benefits from some healthy alone time.
- Use these moments to deepen your connection. Activities like running or hiking provide opportunities for meaningful conversations and bonding.
Surprise her with thoughtful gestures. Bring her roses just because, bake her a special treat, or buy her chocolates on a tough day. These small acts show you’re always striving to make her feel special and loved.
- Visit her workplace with a surprise. It not only shows your care but also impresses her colleagues, reinforcing that she’s with someone thoughtful.
- Leave sweet notes for her to find—on her pillow, the kitchen counter, or the fridge. Simple messages like "I love you" or "Have a great day" can brighten her day.
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If you’re apart from your girlfriend, consider video calling her. It’s a wonderful way to see her face and have a meaningful conversation.
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On date nights, bring a single rose and present it to her during dinner. Say something heartfelt like, "You are my one and only."
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Maintain eye contact with your girlfriend. It demonstrates that she has your undivided attention, not your phone or surroundings.
Things to Keep in Mind
- If this is your first attempt at these steps, your relationship might already be under strain. Persist and keep trying. Your efforts to improve and be a better partner won’t go unnoticed.
- Every woman is unique. Some may crave more physical affection, while others might value attentive listening. Pay attention to her cues and adapt accordingly.
- No approach is guaranteed. Even if you follow all these steps, there’s still a chance the relationship might not work out. Be prepared for the possibility of a breakup.
