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There’s this cute guy who can’t seem to take his eyes off you, but you're unsure of what he’s trying to communicate, right? When it comes to dating and emotions, interpreting body language can be easier than you think! If a guy can’t stop staring at you, he might be ‘crushing’ on you, although there are several other explanations for his thoughts. Keep reading to discover why a guy might stare at you and how you should respond!
Steps
He likes something about you.
Maybe this guy is fond of the design on your shirt or the color of your hair. Sometimes, the reason a guy stares at you isn’t all that deep – he might just find you interesting! A guy could gaze at you because you’re doing something amusing or quirky, and he’s curious to know more. Typically, his eyes will be drawn to whatever you’re doing (or wearing) that catches his attention.
- If he compliments you, say 'Thank you' and maintain a friendly, enthusiastic attitude. This can pave the way for a fun interaction with him!
- If he’s just politely expressing interest, you can continue what you're doing or stop if you don’t want to be the center of attention.
He’s reminded of someone when he sees you.
Guys might stare at someone when they spot a familiar face. This can happen to anyone; when we see someone who looks familiar, we tend to keep looking and try to recall where we’ve met them before. If a guy is staring at you with a slightly confused expression, it could be because you resemble someone he knows.
- You don’t have to respond to his gaze if you don’t want to. However, if you catch him staring and observing your features, he may eventually look away and focus elsewhere.
He wants to talk to you.
Making eye contact is a way for him to make it easier to approach you.
The purpose of this is to signal that he’s open to starting a conversation, and he likely hopes that the conversation will flow naturally when you meet his gaze. If it seems like he’s intentionally seeking eye contact with you (rather than looking away when you glance back), he probably wants to chat with you.
- Feel free to approach and greet him if you feel comfortable. You can also wave to invite him over to say hi!
He wants to learn more about you.
If a guy has feelings for you, he might be wondering what you're like and if you like him back. If he's interested in getting to know you better, he will often gaze at you intensely to show his affection. He might also approach you and start a conversation, asking open-ended and thoughtful questions about you. A guy who truly likes you will follow up with questions to keep the conversation going.
- Respond to his questions and ask him a few in return to show that you like him too. Be sure to ask meaningful questions that encourage him to speak more than just a simple "yes" or "no" so you can learn more about him.
He's paying attention to what you say.
When talking, a guy who is fully focused on listening to you is likely into you. After striking up a conversation and asking insightful questions, he will intentionally look at you while you speak, maintaining eye contact for 4-5 seconds at a time and continuing to do so for more than 70% of the time you’re talking. This indicates that he is giving you his full attention and actively listening to what you're saying.
- Another key sign of active listening is encouraging sounds like “Hmm” or “Oh!” and never interrupting or asking another question while you’re still speaking.
- Active listening is essential in any relationship. Listen to him and show that you're also interested in what he says. Before long, he’ll be even more attracted to you!
He’s trying to grab your attention.
Guys who are nervous or shy may want you to take the lead. Not every guy is completely confident; some may be a bit shy or introverted. In such cases, he might stare at you, thinking about how to approach you, or he might simply keep looking at you, hoping you'll notice and come to talk to him. A guy who’s nervous may speak very quickly and blurt out things that he finds hard to say.
- If he seems fidgety, silent, or awkward when making eye contact (all signs he’s nervous), you can take the initiative to speak to him. Introduce yourself and ask a few questions to break the ice.
He's attracted to you.
If he finds you really attractive, he won't be able to take his eyes off you. A guy who's captivated by you often can't resist the urge to gaze at you when you're both in the same room. He might even find a way to approach you and introduce himself! If he likes you, he’ll intentionally try to make eye contact, smile, and maintain that connection through his gaze.
- Increase his attraction by smiling back and looking into his eyes. Toss your hair over your shoulder or play with a strand of hair to show him that you're paying attention to him.
He has feelings for you.
If he's fantasizing about a date, he might stare at you. This guy could get distracted while imagining going out with you – he might even think about different ways to ask you out or when would be the best time to make the invitation. While talking to you, he’ll show other signs of body language indicating he likes you: He’ll lean in closer and naturally touch your hand, elbow, or waist.
- If he invites you out, reply in a way that shows you're comfortable with the offer. You could say "I’d love to!" or, if you're not interested, "Thanks for the offer, but I’m not thinking about dating right now."
He really loves you.
In serious romantic relationships, boys in love often gaze deeply at their partner. If you and your guy are a couple, a prolonged, affectionate gaze is a great sign—it means he is infatuated with you and cannot take his eyes off you! He will also be fully dedicated to you, prioritizing your needs over others and trying to get closer to you, even if you're not physically touching yet.
- Show him that you feel the same way. Eye contact enhances the desire and attraction between you two, expressing mutual affection.
- Smiling happily at him or giving him an impromptu kiss works wonders. Allow him to stand close, and feel free to initiate a tender gesture like holding his hand or wrapping your arm around him.
He's absentmindedly looking at you.
Everyone has moments of absentmindedness, occasionally staring at something. If the guy seems lost in thought, he probably hasn’t realized where his gaze has landed—he may be looking at you by accident. He isn’t intentionally trying to make you uncomfortable; his eyes just happen to settle on a random fixed point, and you happen to be there.
- You can either ignore the gaze or look him in the eyes and gently smile to see if he’s lost in his thoughts.
- Most guys caught staring absentmindedly will quickly redirect their gaze. You can either look him in the eyes or just let it slide.
He's asserting dominance.
Sadly, some guys use intense stares to assert their power. If he’s glaring at you without smiling, perhaps even appearing angry or cold, he might be trying to establish authority. In this case, his glare acts as a challenge—he believes the weaker party won’t dare to make eye contact. He may also adjust his posture to seem taller and more imposing, even invading your personal space to assert his dominance.
- This behavior doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you (though that’s also possible). Guys who tend to assert themselves in this way often have an intimidating or hostile demeanor.
- Remember, you're not obligated to stay near him. If you can, politely excuse yourself and leave the room, or bring a friend along if you know you’ll be facing someone with this threatening behavior.
