Image Source: Getty ImagesSetting goals can be beneficial for both mental health and overall life satisfaction. However, it's common for people to set overly ambitious, almost unattainable goals that are likely to lead to disappointment. This often causes frustration, undermines self-esteem, and sometimes makes us feel worse than we did before we even started. So what is the secret to success? The answer lies in motivation—specifically, sustaining motivation beyond the initial excitement (whether it's a New Year's resolution or any other goal). Fortunately, there are several effective techniques that can 'trick' you into staying positive and productive, ensuring that you accomplish the goals you've set, no matter how big or small. Psychologists reveal practical strategies that truly work.
1. Try cognitive restructuring.
One method used by therapists in cognitive-behavioral therapy to help clients shift their mindset is cognitive restructuring. This involves recognizing when your thoughts transition from positive to negative, explains psychologist Yvonne Thomas, PhD, and then adjusting those thoughts accordingly.
For instance, imagine your goal is to include more vegetables and whole grains in your meals. It’s easy and enjoyable for the first few weeks—until one day you crave pizza and decide to order some. Instead of accepting that it's normal to indulge now and then, you fall into an "all-or-nothing" thinking pattern ("I’ll never always pick the healthiest option, so there's no point in continuing"). You end up abandoning the goal entirely. This mindset is common, but it's neither healthy nor helpful.
Once you recognize when you slip into that all-or-nothing mindset, the next step of cognitive restructuring is to change those thoughts into more balanced ones. For example, in the pizza scenario, you might reframe it as, "I really enjoyed the pizza last night, and I’m excited for my nutritious oatmeal and fruit tomorrow morning," instead of thinking, "I’ve failed at my goal and will never succeed." It may sound cliché, but life truly is about finding balance (after all, no one can have steamed veggies for dinner every night).
"If you can change your thinking to be more positive and balanced, you're more likely to stay motivated and committed," explains Thomas. "By consciously shifting your thoughts to a more reasonable viewpoint, you prevent yourself from becoming emotionally reactive, which can hinder your ability to follow through with your goals."
2. Visualize your success with a clear and motivating picture of what it will look like.
Psychiatrist Jeffrey Ditzell, DO, encourages you to truly connect with the vision of what you wish to create. If your goal doesn’t excite you, it becomes difficult to stay motivated because we’re not eager to do the daily work necessary to achieve it. That’s why having a clear and inspiring vision of your success can keep you on track.
For those who respond well to visual cues, Dr. Ditzell suggests gathering images or words from magazines or online that represent your aspirations. Display these motivating visuals somewhere you’ll see them every day. "Essentially, you’re activating the brain’s dopamine pleasure pathways to boost performance," he says. "Don’t forget, you can always revisit and update your vision to keep it fresh and exciting for your mind."
3. Break down big goals into smaller, achievable micro-goals.
Imagine one of your top goals is to reorganize your entire home. Perhaps you’ve been inspired by a home organizing show on Netflix (hello, The Home Edit), or maybe living, working, exercising, sleeping, and eating all in one space has made you realize it’s time for a clean-out. Instead of trying to tackle every room in a week, Thomas suggests breaking the larger goal into bite-sized micro-goals. This approach helps prevent feeling overwhelmed. "By dividing the task into smaller chunks, you’re more likely to tackle them and gain confidence, motivating you to continue with the next parts," she says.
4. Assign positive purpose to your goals.
When setting your goals, take a moment to consider the why behind them. Are you looking to enhance your life? Simplify your daily routine? Increase your satisfaction with your job, relationships, or self-worth? Are you truly ready for a major change?
These questions can help reveal whether your goals stem from a place of positivity and purpose, or if they’re driven by fear or shame. "When we approach ourselves with this mindset, it’s hard to stay motivated because we get caught in a negative thought cycle," explains Hanna Stensby, a licensed marriage and family therapist. "Approaching your identity and self-perception with compassion is an excellent way to stay motivated."
Even if the goal itself doesn’t change ("I want to rethink my spending habits"), how you approach and frame it can influence your chances of success. For example, the thought "I'm broke and terrible at saving—there’s something wrong with me," can transform into a more constructive perspective like, "I want to learn how to cut unnecessary spending and save for the things I really care about in the future."
5. Do the necessary preparation every single time.
Remaining on track toward your goals involves doing the prep work. Dr. Ditzell suggests you set yourself up for success by filling your journey with tools that will support consistent effort. In other words: Make things easier by removing potential obstacles. "This could be something as simple as prepping your meals ahead of time to eliminate temptation or keeping a cold water bottle handy to stay hydrated throughout the day," he advises. "Whatever the support is, it needs to be within reach so you can access it when needed."
6. Gather a reliable crew or at least one trusted friend.
There's strength in partnering up. As Stensby explains, we naturally stay motivated and on track when we have support and accountability. But this only works if you’re certain that this person (or group) is committed to the journey and can hold you accountable. Together, you can create actionable ways to be there for each other, whether you're making progress, facing challenges, or pushing toward your end goal. "Discuss your plan with them and check in daily to share your progress," Stensby advises. "Knowing someone will ask about your efforts will make it easier to stay consistent."
7. Highlight the benefits of your goal.
Stensby suggests writing down all the advantages you’ll gain from forming a new habit or working towards your objectives. "Put your 'pros' list somewhere visible every day," she recommends. "When your motivation starts to fade, looking at the benefits will remind you why you're doing this." For example, if your goal is to wake up earlier and become a morning person, keep a list of the perks on your nightstand. This can help you stay strong when the temptation to snooze the alarm is overwhelming.
8. Celebrate your achievements.
If you're working remotely for the long haul and aiming to achieve a healthier balance between your work and personal life, you know this won’t happen overnight—or even in a week or month. It's a process that involves trial and error, with some days where you excel and others where you face challenges. It’s all part of the journey, but focusing only on where you fall short can quickly drain your energy. Instead, Ditzell emphasizes the importance of recognizing every small victory along the way. Though some may view this as bragging or self-promotion, Ditzell believes it's the opposite: "This is an opportunity to reinvest and recoup the energy in each milestone in order to set up and fuel the next round," he says.
