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While the holidays are often portrayed as a joyous and enchanting period, they can be emotionally challenging for many. For some, the reasons are clear, such as coping with the loss of someone dear.
In other cases, the source of your seasonal melancholy might be less apparent. You might feel low while those around you seem to be in high spirits. Although you can't instantly switch to feeling merry, there are proactive measures you can adopt to mitigate these feelings. Here's how.
Recognize what sets off your sadness
Whether you're facing holiday-related stress or melancholy, pinpointing the factors that affect your mental state can be incredibly beneficial.
If specific triggers aren't immediately obvious, the next time you feel a dip in your mood, observe your surroundings: Are you with someone in particular, or in a specific environment? Could it be a melody, a fragrance, or witnessing interactions that highlight a relationship you currently lack?
Understanding the root of your seasonal sadness is crucial for addressing it effectively or steering clear of it when feasible.
Establish firm limits
Dr. Marc Kaplan, a psychiatrist at York Hospital in Maine, advises preparing emotionally for holiday gatherings with loved ones. This preparation includes defining and expressing your personal boundaries.
“Stay true to yourself and concentrate on enjoying the moment,” Kaplan mentioned in a recent interview with Foster’s Daily Democrat. “Plan your duration at the event and who you’ll engage with. Even with individuals you’d rather not meet, recall a positive memory about them instead of labeling them negatively. Reflect on setting limits.”
Prioritize presence over perfection
The holiday season often brings a sense of inadequacy, no matter the effort put in. Resist this feeling. Choose to be fully engaged with your loved ones and allow yourself the freedom to ignore the unrealistic expectation of perfection.
