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Even though the benefits are widely discussed, many find it difficult to start meditating. Numerous individuals attempting meditation often feel like they’ve failed. I’m no exception. How exactly are you supposed to “clear your mind”? That’s where all my thoughts reside!
Initially, I thought mindfulness meditation just wasn’t my thing. I believed I was too anxious to ever quiet my mind. Fortunately, some of my equally stressed but more experienced friends showed me how to rethink the practice. Trust me—meditation becomes much more enjoyable when you stop believing there’s only one correct approach. Here’s how you can also break through the mental barrier of feeling like you’re failing at meditation.
Change your perspective on what meditation is “supposed” to feel like
Every attempt I’ve made to meditate has led me to the same dilemma: I believe I should focus on nothing, but that only makes me think about everything.
The secret to embracing meditation is shifting your focus from clearing your mind to simply observing your thoughts. For most people, the idea of “not thinking” is both impossible and anxiety-inducing. A more effective strategy is to acknowledge and welcome any thoughts that arise.
The real test is to sit calmly and allow your thoughts to flow in and out without triggering intense emotions. As Verywell Mind explains, meditation can help you “make wiser decisions” by enabling you to observe your thoughts without being overwhelmed by impulsive feelings.
The key insight is that meditation doesn’t require you to “empty your mind.” As long as you’re focusing on your thoughts and observing them as objectively as possible, you can consider that a successful mindfulness practice for the day.
Stay motivated: Meditation is like building a muscle
Meditation is akin to a workout rather than an instant solution to stress. When you begin a new exercise routine, you’re bound to feel some discomfort. The only way to push past that discomfort is to maintain consistent practice. Think of meditation as a muscle; it may not function perfectly at first, but that’s because you haven’t yet built the necessary strength.
Meditation becomes easier over time, but you must let go of the idea that you’re failing. Simply showing up to observe your thoughts is a victory in itself and should be celebrated as a successful meditation session.
