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When you begin a new job, no one expects you to have all the answers right away. You undergo training, receive guidance, and are given materials to help you succeed. Over time, you gradually understand your role. Similarly, The School of Life suggests we should approach romantic relationships with this same mindset.
The School of Life highlights that love, as a goal, can feel unattainable. We’re often expected to instantly understand our partner and feel an immediate, profound connection, even if we don’t know them well. Even if the early stages of a relationship seem like this magical bond, reality will eventually surface. When our partner doesn’t automatically understand or empathize with us, it can lead to disappointment.
As The School of Life states:
In the typical romantic view, love is seen as an intense passion, rather than a skill to be cultivated. In contrast, work environments recognize that growth happens when people are supported, not when they feel belittled or threatened. At home, we struggle to be the kind of teachers we need to be. We believe we should be loved for who we are, but despite our flaws, love is often thought to be unrelated to growth. This causes us to misunderstand when a partner attempts to offer constructive feedback, viewing it as criticism rather than a loving effort to help us become better people.
In our professional lives, we receive performance reviews and constructive criticism. In love, however, it’s expected to just flow effortlessly. That said, this isn’t to suggest that you should remain in a toxic or damaging relationship. There comes a point when you have to walk away, but that’s a separate matter entirely.
The key takeaway here is that making a relationship thrive might not come naturally. While it may sound unromantic to compare love to work, this approach seems more conducive to genuinely caring for another person. Watch the full video above or follow the link below for more insights.
