"That Does It For Me": Guys Reveal the Things Women Do That Completely Turn Them Off, and I'm Interested in Hearing Your Opinions on Some of These

I've been known to chat with my girlfriends about the things that turn us off when it comes to guys, so it only felt fair to share the things men find off-putting about women. Here’s what some guys had to say in this thread I came across:

Note: A few of these responses have been shortened and/or clarified for better understanding. 

1. "No mutual effort."

2. "Disrespectful and hurtful behavior. Like, aggressively disrespectful or hurtful. That totally turns me off."

—u/TattedPastor412

3. "No personal interests (people who can't entertain themselves often expect your full attention, which prevents you from enjoying your own hobbies). Complaining all the time is another one. Not every day is perfect, but those who whine about every little thing, even when their day was pretty good by most standards, are exhausting."

4. "When a woman doesn’t hold herself to the same expectations she has for her partner. I’m not saying the roles and duties in a relationship have to be identical, but it’s frustrating when a woman behaves in a certain way or has a specific attitude, then gets upset when her partner acts the same way."

—u/wesagod

5. "When someone’s dating profile is just a list of traits they want in a man but says nothing about who they are or what they contribute to a relationship."

6. "Failure to communicate clearly and effectively. If you want something or don’t, make sure it’s crystal clear, with no confusion. If it’s an important matter and the other person isn’t understanding, take them aside in a calm environment, warn them that it’s a serious conversation, and go over it with them until they understand."

—u/Edumacator239

7. "Mistreating people in service roles, like servers, bartenders, or cashiers, is a massive red flag. It reveals a lot about their true character."

8. "The ones who feel the need to tear down every other woman they encounter. It’s disgusting. No, Karen. I didn’t even notice the outfit that woman was wearing until you mentioned it, but even now that I have, it’s still not as obnoxious as the filth coming out of your mouth."

—u/jtf3983

9. "If I’m the only one who ever starts a text conversation, it makes me feel like I’m just there to boost your ego. For example, I have to be the one to text 'good morning' first. If I don’t, I get nothing but silence, sometimes for days, followed by a passive-aggressive message about me 'not being interested.' I’m in my late 40s. I broke up with my first girlfriend in 7th grade over this exact thing. (It was phone calls, not texts, obviously.) If you want to play childish games, find a childish fool."

—u/Pimp_Daddy_76

10. "If they only have male 'friends' and say other women are 'too much drama.' Yet, somehow, they’re always in the middle of drama and thrive on gossip. Constantly talking about 'haters' and 'fans.'"

11. "The silent treatment. It’s passive-aggressive, manipulative nonsense."

—u/Additional-Stay-4355

12. "Romanticizing or being unable to move on from their exes, and continuing to message them because 'They’re just so important to me.'"

—u/KeisuketheLoser

13. "I recently went to Santorini. One evening, I dined at a restaurant with an incredible view of the island and the water. I lost track of how many Instagram girls dragged their indifferent boyfriends there, forcing them through dozens of 'look-at-me' poses while whining for photo instructions. Treating those close to you as props or free crew members just to look glamorous on social media is a huge turn-off."

14. "When I feel like I’m investing more into the relationship than she is."

—u/captnameless88

15. "Girls who push you away but then expect you to chase them. It's a huge turn-off and usually a red flag that indicates they want to do all the receiving in the relationship, with no real partnership. Also, double standards. For example, it’s fine when a woman rejects her man’s advances, but if he turns hers down, he’s suddenly insensitive or cruel. That’s manipulative behavior. Lastly, have a job and be working towards some kind of career. You don’t need a college degree, but a dead-end retail job with no prospects won’t cut it."

—u/ShenaniganNinja