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Our society has some curious taboos. While we’re often fine with watching mature series like Game of Thrones or Breaking Bad, using curse words at the dinner table is considered off-limits. However, if you’re looking to build a closer connection with someone, letting a few curse words slip might just be the way to go.
In his book In Praise of Profanity, Michael Adams points out that swearing’s taboo nature actually makes it an act that can leave you feeling a bit vulnerable. Remember that moment when you first swore around someone you barely knew? You probably felt a wave of uncertainty, wondering whether they’d tolerate it or take offense. Once you’ve crossed that line, though, you’ve created a small but significant bond. Embracing each other's perceived flaws strengthens the connection. As Quartz puts it:
Adams argues that profanity serves a number of useful social purposes, one of which is to 'bring us together.' There’s a certain closeness in swearing because you’re aware it’s a social no-no. My son knows that when his mom swears in front of him, it’s an act of trust, one that they share but is not to be repeated in school (thank goodness).
Adams writes, 'Bad words' are surprisingly helpful in building relationships, as they come with an inherent risk... We enjoy breaking the rules, especially with those who share the same mindset.
While swearing can sometimes be fitting, there are moments when it's best to hold back. If you're at a professional event, meeting your partner's relatives, or attending a formal gathering, you may want to tone down your language. However, for more casual settings—and if everyone present is comfortable with it—expressing yourself freely might be perfectly fine.
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