1. Give Clear Instructions to Your Child
If you want your child to put away their toys after playing, instead of simply saying 'Put away your toys,' try saying 'Please put the red robot into the basket.' This way, your child will have a clear understanding of what to do and how to do it.
Children under 2 have limited language comprehension, so they won’t understand if something needs to be put away or where it belongs if you only give a command without specific instructions. Therefore, it’s important to say what you want them to do and guide them through the process.
Guide Your Child Clearly
Provide Clear Guidance to Your Child2. Don’t Overwhelm Your Child with Requests
If you want your child to do something they can’t manage, it’s best to only repeat the request once. Avoid asking them multiple times, as this may make the child feel like you are angry, causing them to lose calm and become frustrated. Furthermore, if you repeatedly remind them and they can’t do it, it will make you truly upset, and losing patience while teaching your child is a sign of failure.
Don’t Overwhelm Your Child with Requests
Don’t Overwhelm Your Child with Requests3. Don’t Give In to Your Child’s Puppy Eyes
Don’t let your heart soften when you see your child’s cute face or tears. If you give in and hug them, pamper them, you may unintentionally undo all the efforts you’ve made in teaching them. Once or twice, they’ll learn that shedding tears or showing a sad face will make you drop your request, which can dangerously affect their behavior. When your child cries, give them a few moments to calm down before showing affection again. There’s no rush.
Don’t Give In to Your Child’s Puppy Eyes
Don’t Give In to Your Child’s Puppy Eyes4. Create the Best Environment for Your Child’s Skill Development
Between the ages of 1-2 years, there are three key skills that your child needs to develop: 1) Walking, 2) Speaking, and 3) Basic grasping skills. The first task for parents with a child over one year old is to ensure that they have ample space to move freely. If your child climbs out of their crib, don’t scold them! Seeing their actions and immediately labeling them as mischief shuts down their curiosity and engagement. This is where the failure to educate begins. The key is to foster freedom of movement. Parents must respect the child’s actions while keeping an eye on potential dangers. Allow them to move in wide spaces, take walks, and enjoy outdoor play. On sunny days, take them to the park or square for some fun. Encourage them to hold and manipulate objects, helping to strengthen their coordination. These simple movements are crucial for their development.
Create the Best Environment for Your Child’s Skill Development
Create the Best Environment for Your Child’s Skill Development5. Let Your Child Explore During Their ‘Try-It-Phase’
The period between 1 and 1.8 years is known as the 'Try-It-Phase' in a child’s development. During this time, children are eager to experiment with various actions, such as testing the weight, trajectory, inertia, and bounce of objects—essentially, engaging in basic physical experiments. You must allow your child to explore and experience these activities freely. Never scold your child harshly if they accidentally break something valuable. Their actions are not malicious, and such incidents do not reflect poor character. Instead, the sensible thing to do is to keep fragile items out of reach. Through these playful experiences, children not only gain intelligence but also satisfy their curiosity, fostering a positive attitude as they interact with the world around them.
Let Your Child Explore During Their ‘Try-It-Phase’
Allow Your Child to Explore Everything During Their ‘Try-It-Phase’6. Avoid Using Prohibitive Words and Instead Redirect to a New Game
If parents are constantly saying 'Don’t do this!' or 'Don’t do that!', what happens to the child? The child becomes extremely negative, and their confidence does not grow. As they grow older, they may encounter more complex issues. Being constantly prohibited from doing what they want fosters a sense of rebellion and can lead to irritability or frustration. During a period when children are open to external influences, restrictive language like 'no' doesn’t help them grow. It suppresses their natural potential more than anything else. If you need to stop them from doing something, try redirecting their attention to a new activity instead. This way, there’s no sense of force or restriction, and they remain relaxed. Take them outside and let them interact with the world as much as possible. This is the best way to nurture their development. It’s also important for children to observe peers of the same age. They don’t necessarily need to interact with them, but this exposure helps them develop social skills. Allow your child to walk outdoors to their fullest ability. This is incredibly beneficial for their growth.
Avoid Using Prohibitive Words and Instead Redirect to a New Game
Avoid Prohibitive Language and Redirect to Another Activity7. Create a Language-Rich Environment
At this stage, children's ability to understand language develops rapidly. Their speech muscles, such as those in the jaw and throat, mature, enabling them to distinguish and use syllables accurately. They are also able to form short sentences, connecting two or three words together. Parents should talk to their child as much as possible. During this period, reading lots of books to the child is a great way to foster a love of reading. This also significantly boosts their cognitive development. The more words a child hears, the richer their vocabulary will be by the time they turn two. Teaching them more words helps stimulate their brain, making them smarter and more articulate.
Create a Language-Rich Environment
Create a Language-Rich Environment8. Allow Children to Move and Walk as Much as Possible
A child's inner energy thrives when their senses, motor skills, and language development are activated from birth. By 18 months, children should be walking as much as they can. Constantly carrying them, hugging them, or keeping them in strollers and cars all day will prevent them from learning to move on their own.
At two years old, children have an overwhelming urge to move. Their limbs and body won't stay still, and restricting this can hinder their development. When encouraged properly, children can develop impressive physical abilities. For instance, in Japan, children are taught to walk daily from the age of two, which not only boosts their physical growth but also aids in cognitive development.
Encourage Children to Move and Walk as Much as Possible
Encourage Children to Move and Walk as Much as Possible9. Introduce Books to Your Child Early
Your child may not know how to read yet—it's true! They might not even speak clearly. But that shouldn't stop you from setting up a little bookshelf for them. There are plenty of books for 2-year-olds filled with adorable pictures and illustrations. This is a fantastic first step in nurturing their intellectual development.
Each day, you can 'read' with your child by letting them enjoy the vibrant pictures and telling them stories from the pages. You can point out numbers to count, name the animals or objects in the book. This approach helps build vocabulary, stimulates imagination, and promotes cognitive development for children of all ages.
Introduce Books to Your Child Early
Introduce Books to Your Child Early10. Play Brain-Boosting Games
Put away the tablets and smartphones. Instead, look for brain-stimulating games to play with your child. You could shape clay together, color pictures, arrange wooden blocks into towers, or put on a puppet show while telling stories with stuffed animals or dolls. These games subtly encourage the development of logical thinking and problem-solving skills for the future.
Play Brain-Boosting Games
Encourage Brain-Engaging GamesCuriosity and the desire to explore the world around them is crucial for a child’s intellectual growth. You can capture their attention by introducing new and interesting things in their environment, encouraging them to observe, experience, and explaining things in simple terms.
It may sound complicated, but here’s an example: a parent can hold the child next to a piano and press the keys to produce different sounds. When the child becomes curious and excited by the sound produced when they touch the keys, let them explore by pressing the keys themselves. While doing this, you can explain, “This is a piano, sweetheart.” Does the child not understand? No worries! By the time the child reaches around three years old, they may surprise you by explaining to someone else, “This is a piano!”
Foster Curiosity
Nurture Curiosity12. Stimulate Your Child's Imagination
In everyday situations, you can encourage your child’s imagination. For example, if your child carelessly throws a stuffed bear after playtime, you can say, “The teddy bear is feeling sad because you left it behind.”
You can spark imagination when your child sees a bird flying, watches the rain fall, or looks at a painting. The more they imagine, the more they expand their minds. Make sure to spend time taking walks in the park, pointing out animals and plants along the way, as this will also help boost their creative thinking.
Stimulate Your Child's Imagination
Encourage children's imagination
13. Speak firmly instead of yelling
Dr. Martin J. Drell states, "If you show your child that you are angry, you have already failed. In that moment, your child will either act out more or become fearful of you." Instead of expressing anger or shouting, try speaking firmly to let your child know that certain behavior is unacceptable and explain the consequences of continuing such actions.
Of course, your child might not fully understand the issue the way parents do, but that shouldn't stop you from explaining and talking to them about their actions. The way you communicate, including your tone and delivery, can help your child recognize their mistakes and understand the importance of apologizing.
Speak firmly instead of yelling
Speak firmly instead of shouting
Don’t forget that a serious gaze is a powerful tool. When talking to your child about the mistakes they've made, look them straight in the eyes and begin the conversation with sincerity. Your eye contact will help the child focus, understand the gravity of their actions, and show that it's time to listen to you.
However, just like with tone, don't use an angry stare. Instead, look at your child with a serious expression. They are interpreting your thoughts through your gaze, not being scared by it.
Use eye contact
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