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Let's face it: starting a conversation with a guy you've just met or aren't very close with can be pretty intimidating, right? You probably want to have a fun and exciting chat that keeps him interested and avoids any awkwardness. So, how do you start? Luckily, there are plenty of conversation starters to choose from. Here's a list of the best topics for meaningful conversations that will help you confidently chat with him!
Steps
Hobbies and interests
Guys love talking about their passions. We all enjoy talking about ourselves, don't we? Break the ice by asking about his interests. Who knows, you might discover some common hobbies that bring you closer! Try starting the conversation with questions like:
- Do you have any interesting stories about yourself?
- What do you like to do in your free time?
- Are there any hobbies you've always wanted to try?
- What's your favorite sport?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
Fascinating stories
To break the initial awkwardness, nothing works better than a humorous story. Laughter is a fantastic way to connect with others and ease tension. Try sharing a funny anecdote or a light-hearted moment from your life. If he doesn’t find it amusing, don’t be discouraged. Keep the conversation flowing by asking about things he finds entertaining. You could ask:
- What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?
- What’s your favorite joke?
- Do you have a favorite comedian?
- What kind of videos or memes make you laugh?
- What’s the most hilarious text you’ve ever received (or sent)?
Hobbies and pop culture
People often bond over books, movies, and music. Ask for his opinions on his favorite genres of films or music. You might discover a great movie or a new song you’ll love. Try asking questions like:
- What’s the best book you’ve ever read?
- What TV shows are you currently binge-watching?
- Who are your favorite actors?
- What’s your go-to song right now?
- Which band would you love to see perform live?
Food and drinks
Food is a universal language. Talk about the dishes he enjoys cooking or eating. You can even exchange recipes or recommend great restaurants to him. Consider asking:
- What are your favorite foods?
- What’s your go-to drink to grab on the go?
- Do you enjoy cooking?
- Are there any new restaurants you’ve tried recently that you’d recommend?
- If you had to eat one meal every day for the rest of the year, what would it be?
Travel
Share your dream vacation with him. The guy you’re talking to might have places he’s dreaming of visiting or exploring. Share your bucket list destinations or ask about a country he’s always wanted to visit. Try asking:
- What places are on your travel bucket list?
- What’s the most exciting trip you’ve ever taken?
- Do you prefer traveling by plane or car?
- What would your dream vacation look like?
- Do you travel often?
Pets and animals
Animal-related topics can help you connect with almost anyone. Even if the guy you’re talking to doesn’t have a pet, you can bond over questions about his favorite animals or the pet he’d love to have. If you have a pet, you can even share a photo to kick off the conversation. For example, you could ask:
- Do you have any pets?
- What’s your spirit animal?
- Are you more of a dog person or a cat person?
- Did you have any pets growing up?
- If you could have any pet, what would it be?
Career and education
When it comes to careers, there’s so much to talk about. Ask him about his current job or what he’s studying. This can be a great way to kick off a conversation and learn more about his daily life. Here are some questions for this topic:
- What does a typical day look like for you?
- What’s your dream job?
- What’s your favorite subject to study?
- What was your first job?
- What skills are essential for your profession?
Childhood
Encourage him to reminisce about his growing-up years. There are countless childhood memories that can spark an engaging conversation. Sharing stories from your younger days can help you bond over similar experiences. If he seems open about his past, you could ask questions like:
- Where did you grow up?
- What school did you go to as a kid?
- What kind of kid were you back then?
- What’s your most memorable childhood moment?
- How is your life now different from when you were younger?
Family and friends
We all have loved ones in our lives. Give him a chance to talk about the important people in his life and let him steer the conversation. If there’s someone you both know, you can discuss that person, especially if they introduced you two. Start the conversation with questions like:
- What’s your family like?
- Do you have any siblings?
- Do you see your family often?
- Do you have a close group of friends?
- Who’s the closest person to you in your life?
Love and relationships
Everyone has their own perspective on love. Let’s be honest, if you like this guy, you’re probably curious about his romantic life, right? Whether he’s in a relationship or you just want to be friends, love is always a great topic for sharing heartfelt and meaningful stories. You can start the conversation with questions like:
- Are you seeing anyone right now?
- What are you looking for in a relationship?
- What was your first date like?
- What qualities do you find most attractive in a partner?
- What are some challenges you’ve faced in relationships?
Compliments
Guys usually enjoy receiving compliments. Just like girls, guys appreciate being praised. In fact, a compliment can be a great conversation starter and make him feel like you’re paying attention to him. Here are some great examples of compliments:
- “I really like your fashion sense.”
- “You have such a charming smile.”
- “You’ve got a great sense of humor.”
- “Your presentation today was really impressive.”
- “You have an amazing taste in movies.”
Social media
Most people spend a significant amount of time online. Even if they’re not active on social media, everyone has a platform they enjoy or spend time browsing. You might even have met or connected with the guy you’re talking to online. Here are some questions to start the conversation:
- What’s your go-to social media platform?
- Do you spend a lot of time on social media?
- Have you seen this funny meme or video?
- Which social media platform do you dislike the most?
- Do you prefer interacting online or in real life?
Zodiac signs
Astrology is a fascinating topic to bring up in conversation. Whether he knows everything about his zodiac sign or has never looked into astrology, this topic can spark an engaging discussion. Try asking him questions like:
- Do you know your zodiac sign?
- Do you believe in horoscopes?
- What’s your birth month and day?
- What are some common traits of your zodiac sign?
- Do you know which element (water, air, earth, or fire) rules your zodiac sign?
Goals and dreams
Boys often enjoy discussing their aspirations and dreams. Engage him by asking about what he looks forward to to understand his goals that might align with yours and gain insight into his vision for the future. Here are some effective ways to broach this topic:
- Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
- What is your lifelong ambition?
- If a crystal ball could show your future, what would you hope to see?
- What are your career aspirations?
- Do you plan to marry and have children?
Talk about yourself
To ensure the conversation isn't one-sided, you should also share details about yourself. This allows him to learn more about you and feel comfortable opening up in return.
- Discuss your hobbies or what you enjoy doing in your free time.
- Talk about your profession or career and what you love about your job.
- Recommend some great movies and books to him.
- Share some memorable childhood stories.
- Talk about places on your bucket list that you dream of visiting.
Advice
- If you're at a social event or in a work environment, try asking him about his usual weekend activities or break the ice by discussing why both of you are attending the event, as this can help him open up to you.
Warning
- Avoid bombarding him with too many questions at once. Ensure he doesn't feel like he's in the hot seat or being interrogated.
