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Dù thông minh và tiếp xúc với nhiều kiến thức mới, tại sao giới trẻ lại cảm thấy mất hứng thú với công việc? Làm thế nào để khắc phục tình trạng này?
Trong lĩnh vực nghề nghiệp, trong khi người trưởng thành thường trung thành với một công ty và nỗ lực phát triển sự nghiệp cá nhân, thì người trẻ thì ngược lại. Họ thường than phiền về công việc, dễ chán nản và thiếu năng lượng khi làm việc tại văn phòng. Mặc dù họ thông minh và tiếp cận với nhiều kiến thức mới, có nhiều cơ hội phát triển, nhưng họ không thể đạt được thành công như mong muốn.
Để hiểu rõ hơn về tâm trạng của giới trẻ đối với công việc, chuyên gia tâm lý Tess Brigham ở San Francisco, Mỹ đã chia sẻ kinh nghiệm từ 10 năm làm việc với giới trẻ.
Lý do giới trẻ ghét công việc: Tại sao?
Trước khi tìm giải pháp, cần hiểu nguyên nhân. Vậy tại sao giới trẻ cảm thấy xa lạ với công việc - điều họ đã mất hàng chục năm để học? Để trả lời câu hỏi này, Tess Brigham chỉ ra một số lý do phổ biến:
– Excessive hope leads to clouded judgment, encountering harsh realities breeds negative thoughts.
– Failing to outline specific career plans, instead rushing for promotions without sufficient dedication.
– Regular exposure to social media, believing in glamorous but unrealistic lives where person A earns without effort, person B travels like going to a market, person C indulges in luxury brands all day long, leading to self-blame of 'why am I not like that?'
– Lack of trust from superiors, constant suppression and control making young individuals feel suffocated in office life. Or feeling that their current workplace offers no prospects for personal growth.
From the roots of the aforementioned issues, psychological expert Tess Brigham provides solutions for young individuals to combat job dissatisfaction, seeking a way forward in their corporate office life, even though it may seem daunting.
“I hate my job” but what exactly do I hate?
Not only does 'person' create 'imperfections', but it seems that every aspect, every issue of life is imperfect, including work. Therefore, sometimes we all feel frustrated with our current jobs to the point where we just want to scream out for the whole world to know.
However, screaming or complaining ultimately doesn't help, so why don't young people learn from the ways of the 'elderly' and seek specific reasons. If you want to solve and change so that you stop hating your job or your job stops hating you, then search for the cause, find the obstacles, and think of ways to overcome them.
For example, if your boss is too strict, causing you to be annoyed and 'transferring' it to your work, quickly engage in dialogue with your boss; or if the company policies are unfair, what are you waiting for but to email clarifying the issue with management;…
Know what you want
Young people in general tend to be quite impulsive when expressing personal emotions, but when asked 'so what do you really want?', they often falter without an answer. The advice is to not rush into anything until you truly understand yourself and your most genuine thoughts.
Every emotion does not arise without a core origin of the problem. And that core is correlated with one's desires and aspirations. For example, hating the company you work for because the office environment is too noisy, reflects that you enjoy and desire to work in a quiet place,…
Once understanding what one wants, young individuals can easily find their way in the early stages of their office life. In the example above, knowing that you desire to work in a quiet place has two advantages: first, it helps you communicate with your boss or leadership to find solutions (like allowing you to work from home three days a week, for instance), and if there's no best solution, you'll also have another criterion for selection if you happen to change jobs.
Logical thinking, maximizing the best option for oneself is what makes a smart young person in the office environment. Why be disheartened, claim to hate your job without knowing why, or even what you want? That's just empty talk.
Harmonizing between expectations and standards
Standards are individual satisfaction criteria formed based on personal desires, but they must be close to reality. For example, 'my standard is only working in companies that allow employees to have 8 days off per month'.
Expectations are wishes, desires of individuals, similar to dreams. Although they may imagine more than reality, they shouldn't be too far-fetched. For example, 'I expect after two months of work, the company will pay me a salary of 30 million'.
Above is the difference between the two things that always exist in the minds of office workers. However, if those who love their jobs always have expectations that are balanced with their self-set standards and are satisfied at any given time, then young people who often feel disheartened with their jobs usually have expectations that differ too much from their own standards.
This is like 'hoping too much, being disappointed too much', so it's best to harmonize between expectations and standards. Specifically, don't expect things too far-fetched in your job like promotions, bonuses, fancy work environments,... lower it down. At the same time, raise your own standards and strive to improve your skills, work demeanor to deserve the 'slightly lofty' standards you set.
Treating yourself well to cope with stress
Once for some relatively reasonable reasons causing many young office workers to experience stress, such as being bullied by 'old ghosts', being pressured by bosses, companies lacking potential for personal development,... then don't foolishly suppress emotions, nor expect comfort from social media.
Instead, take time to sit down with friends and family, share the troubles that are making you feel frustrated at work. Who knows, listening and direct sharing from trusted people might be an effective morale booster to help you face and 'fight' stress.
