How to handle what happens when you're constantly rejected

Rejection is an unavoidable aspect of life – everyone has faced it at some point. But when you feel like rejection is happening all the time, it's natural to wonder what these rejections mean for you and whether this feeling is normal. Experiencing repeated rejection is not unusual, and you’re certainly not alone in feeling this way. That’s why this article addresses questions about rejection and offers insights to help you navigate life without fear.

You may feel angry. Whether it's in love, friendship, or work, it might feel like everything is falling apart. In those moments, you may find yourself furious with the person who rejected you, or even angry at the world. Feeling angry is completely normal, and you can use this emotion as a source of motivation to move forward.

You may become depressed. It’s likely that you won’t just feel sad when you face rejection over and over again. Studies show that repeated rejection can lead to feelings of wanting to give up and even result in depression. This condition leaves you feeling constantly fatigued, lacking motivation, or isolating yourself.

You may become envious of others. You might notice that those around you seem to be accepted, while you continue to face rejection, and this can make you feel worse. Envy is a normal human emotion, and it’s completely natural to occasionally feel jealous of others in your circle.

Acknowledge your feelings. You may feel hurt, angry, envious, or a mix of emotions. Take the time to feel what’s happening inside you and resist the urge to suppress those emotions. You can talk to a trusted friend or even write your thoughts down. The more you express yourself, the lighter you’ll feel, as it helps you stop hiding your feelings.

Keep moving forward. Just because you were rejected this time doesn’t mean you’ll be rejected again. Even multiple rejections can’t predict what will happen next! Rejection is part of life, and nearly everyone you know has experienced it at some point. Focus on what’s ahead, and stop dwelling on what happened in the past.

Chia sẻ trải nghiệm của bạn với chuyên gia sức khỏe tinh thần. Chuyên gia trị liệu hoặc chuyên gia tư vấn tâm lý có thể giúp bạn đối mặt với cảm xúc một cách lành mạnh. Nếu bạn cảm thấy như đã trải qua quá nhiều lần từ chối, hãy đặt lịch hẹn gặp chuyên gia sức khỏe tinh thần và chia sẻ trải nghiệm của bạn. Họ có thể giúp bạn hiểu được lý do bạn thường cảm thấy bị từ chối và đưa ra giải pháp giúp bạn nâng cao lòng tự trọng để tiếp tục trải nghiệm cuộc sống.

Đúng vậy, bị từ chối là trải nghiệm bình thường trong cuộc sống. Mọi người đều bị từ chối một lần nào đó trong đời, bất kể là trong tình yêu, tình bạn hay công việc. Không phải ai cũng yêu thích hoặc chấp nhận con người thật của ta, và điều đó hoàn toàn bình thường. Trên thực tế, việc bạn bị từ chối nhiều lần có nghĩa là bạn dám trải nghiệm cuộc sống - một đặc điểm vô cùng đáng quý.

Việc bị từ chối có thể gây ra nỗi đau thể chất khiến con người sợ hãi. Nghiên cứu cho biết việc bị từ chối và cơn đau thể chất đều thắp sáng những vùng não giống nhau. Đây là cảm giác không hề dễ chịu, và chắc hẳn bạn không muốn trải qua cảm giác đó một lần nào nữa. Đó là lý do khiến sự từ chối trở nên đáng sợ - vì nó thật sự khiến bạn bị tổn thương.

• Thật may mắn khi nỗi đau này không kéo dài mãi mãi. Chuyên gia cho biết thời gian là phương thuốc chữa lành tốt nhất, và sau khi nỗi đau đầu tiên được xoa dịu, não của bạn sẽ phục hồi nhanh hơn trong lần bị từ chối tiếp theo.

You may become insecure. When rejected by a partner, you might feel like they no longer truly like (or love) you. While this feeling may not be entirely accurate, it still affects your self-esteem and can make you feel terrible about yourself. The best thing you can do in this situation is to sit down and talk with your partner about what’s causing you to feel rejected, and discuss solutions you both can work on to eliminate these feelings.

• Start the conversation by saying, "Hey, can we talk? Lately, I’ve been feeling rejected, and I just want to review our relationship."

You may start avoiding them. After facing several rejections, whether emotional or physical, you may stop trying altogether. This is often what causes you to avoid the other person, further damaging the relationship. Once again, it’s important to communicate with your partner to help both of you understand the situation better.

• If you’re struggling to talk to your partner or come up with solutions that work for both of you, consider scheduling a session with a relationship counselor.

Recognize that you dared to make an effort. Expressing your feelings or asking someone out is never easy, but you did it! Be proud of yourself for trying, even if the result wasn’t what you hoped for!

Learn from the experience. Perhaps you asked someone out too soon? Did you miss the signs that they only wanted to be friends? Take a moment to reflect on everything that led to the rejection and draw lessons for the next time.

• For instance, you might have asked someone out after just a few days of meeting. Next time, consider getting to know them better before making a move.