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If you're reading this article, you probably have two questions in mind. Does the guy with a girlfriend actually like me? And if he does, is his affection for me stronger than for his current girlfriend? To answer these, Mytour has compiled a list of clear signs that indicate the guy may be attracted to you, which you should pay attention to. If you notice these signs, you can be sure that his current relationship is on shaky ground. Ultimately, the choice is yours, but let's read further to better understand the situation you're in.
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He often texts and compliments you on social media.
Increased digital interaction is a sign that his interest is shifting. In other words, if this guy suddenly starts texting or engaging with you more frequently on social media, it means he is thinking about you more often. Along with the increased interaction, consider signs that he’s trying to impress you. For example, does he send you funny jokes or compliment your photos?
- If you notice his digital interaction with his current girlfriend is decreasing at the same time, it’s likely that his feelings are changing.
He makes frequent eye contact with you.
Pay attention to the frequency of quick glances along with dilated pupils (not staring). Whether he has a girlfriend or not, a man constantly staring at you is more intimidating than attractive. However, if he gives you quick glances hoping to make eye contact, he definitely likes you. Eye contact with a smile is a clear sign of affection!
- If you catch his gaze, observe if his pupils seem bigger than usual. Dilated pupils are a typical sign of physical attraction.
He closes the distance to touch you.
Is he eliminating barriers to get closer to you, literally? If a guy is attracted to you, he will want to remove any physical barriers between you two. This includes things like cups or glasses on the table, the bag he's carrying, or even his arms crossed in front of his chest. You'll notice him moving closer and finding subtle ways to touch you, as if it wasn’t intentional.
- He may inch closer to you little by little if you're standing in a group. Or if you’re sitting next to each other at a table, you might notice his chair gradually moving closer to yours compared to the person sitting on the other side.
- Once he's close enough, he’ll find ways to make physical contact with you, even if it's just a light touch. For example, he might tap your shoulder to get your attention rather than just calling your name, or he might lightly brush his arm against yours while getting seated.
He talks more and flirts often.
This guy will want to impress you and subtly suggest that he's interested in you. Men often try to come across as good communicators when they really like someone because they want to show off their personality and hint at their attraction. Therefore, look for signs of flirting. In fact, you should pay attention to behaviors like the following:
- He talks about things that make him attractive, such as his achievements in sports or academic accomplishments.
- He often brings up topics that he knows (or at least thinks) you will find interesting.
- He'll flirt with you, maybe by teasing you gently (“How did you know my coffee wasn’t good and spilled it?”) or offering subtle compliments (“Did you get a new hairstyle today? It looks great”).
- He asks deep questions to understand you better.
He remembers the details you’ve shared.
This is a surefire sign that he's paying attention and wants you to know it. The more details he remembers, the higher the likelihood that he likes you. You may experience situations like the following:
- You once casually mentioned to the group (which included him) that red is your favorite color. A while later, he returns from a trip to Da Lat and gifts you a red beanie with a note saying, “I hope you’ll like this because you love red.”
- Once, you mentioned that your birthday falls on the same day as Vietnam Family Day. Even though you’re quite private and didn’t give any hints, he still remembers and texts you “Happy Birthday” on the exact day.
He expects feedback and agreement from you.
Does he seem genuinely delighted when you burst out laughing at his joke or smile when you cross paths? When a man has feelings for someone, he will always look for signs that the other person is also interested in him. Whether it's subtle (a smile, laughter) or clear (getting drawn into the conversation he started), these signs are a huge boost to his ego and hopes!
- Similarly, does he look frustrated when you don’t laugh at his jokes?
He makes an effort to look more put together when you're around.
Does he dress more impressively when he knows you'll be seeing him? Men don't usually go out of their way to focus on their appearance, grooming, and hair styling unless there's a reason. If this change is quite noticeable, especially when he knows he'll be around you, it's a strong sign that he has feelings for you.
- He may also try to impress you through body language, like standing taller, pulling his shoulders back, and sucking in his stomach a little.
He seems more enthusiastic with you than with his current girlfriend.
Does he “light up” when he's around you and appear “bored” when he's with her? If so, it seems like this guy might like both you and his girlfriend at the same time. However, if he's truly infatuated with you, he likely no longer feels the same about her. Pay close attention to the signs that show his interest in you, and how he behaves around his girlfriend.
- For example, does he laugh heartily when you tell a funny story but only give a slight smile when his girlfriend shares a similar one? Or does he cross his arms when talking to her, but relax his posture when talking to you?
- Men (and people in general) aren't as good at hiding their emotions as they think. If he's showing more interest in you than in her, this suspicion could very well be true!
Their relationship seems dull and lackluster.
If he's focused on you, he might not put as much effort into his current relationship. Ask yourself this: Is this guy being “half-hearted” with his girlfriend? Are their conversations dull (or do they barely talk at all)? Do they avoid physical contact or give awkward hugs and kisses? Do you feel like he’s considering ending the relationship?
- It’s also possible he’s trying to make his relationship seem closer than it actually is, even though he’s no longer emotionally invested. He might act clumsily just to hide his true feelings for you. If his gestures of affection toward his girlfriend seem forced, their relationship is likely facing trouble.
They argue over trivial things and have constant disagreements.
Does he get easily frustrated or upset with his girlfriend? If he’s already into you, he might be blind to your flaws. Similarly, if his feelings for his girlfriend have faded, even the smallest of her flaws, which he previously ignored, will now become glaringly obvious.
- Some guys are simply prone to disagreements and getting irritated with everyone. That’s why you should compare his behavior with you and his girlfriend in similar situations.
He spends less time with his girlfriend.
Has he cut down on alone time with her to hang out more with the group? If a guy isn’t enthusiastic about spending time with his girlfriend, or makes excuses to avoid seeing her, things are clearly not going well. If he simultaneously looks for opportunities to spend time with you, then there’s no doubt he has feelings for you.
- For example, if you're out with a group, and he mentions his movie plans with his girlfriend later that evening, and then adds, “Tonight, I’m going to see a movie with my girlfriend. Our group can join us; I’ve heard this film is great,” it’s a sign to pay attention to.
His girlfriend suddenly becomes suspicious.
She will likely sense that his feelings have shifted. The truth is, women tend to get suspicious, even when there’s no apparent reason. But if she starts acting more suspicious toward her boyfriend, it’s another sign that he may have turned his attention toward you.
- If she’s friends with you, she might confide in you about her doubts. You’ll be in an awkward position with two options: either you share what you’ve noticed about him, which may imply you value your friendship with her more, or you listen and stay silent, if you like him too!
He confides in you instead of his girlfriend.
If he’s opening up to you instead of his girlfriend, he likely has feelings for you. If he directly tells you about his emotions and expresses a desire to break up with his girlfriend, it’s pretty clear. And if he even talks about the state of his relationship, it’s undeniable. Confiding in you means he trusts you, and trust and affection often go hand in hand.
- This might be harder to spot if you’re already close friends and often chat. In this case, pay attention to whether he’s confiding in you more than before, and if he’s rarely doing so with his girlfriend anymore.
