Buzz
Do you ever dream of receiving a hug from your crush, but you don't want to seem too forward? How can you make that dream a reality without missing the opportunity? Don't worry – with the right approach, you can definitely get that person to hug you! Here, we've gathered several tips and tricks to help you maximize your chances of success.
Steps
Open your arms when saying goodbye.
Suggest a hug when wrapping up a conversation. When saying goodbye after a chat with the person you like, instead of waving or giving a high-five, extend your arms and say, “Goodbye!” Hopefully, they’ll get the hint and give you the hug you’ve been longing for.
- Don't be discouraged if the person you like doesn’t seem too interested. They might be in a hurry or not yet comfortable enough for a hug. Be patient!
Comforting them when they are feeling down.
This is a great option if you are already close to the person. Maybe the person you secretly like didn’t do well on a test or is dealing with some issues at home. Whatever the reason, you can comfort them with a meaningful hug. In this situation, the hug may last longer than usual. Here are a few ways you can suggest it:
- “Are you okay? You look like you need a hug.”
- “Do you need a hug?”
- “Don’t be sad. Want a hug from me?”
Directly ask if they want a hug from you.
Being straightforward will prevent any misunderstandings. The best case scenario is that they like you back, and you’ll finally get the hug you’ve been waiting for without sending mixed signals. The worst case is that the person you like isn’t interested, but you’ve shown them that you are respectful and considerate of their boundaries. You could ask questions like:
- “Can I hug you?”
- “Would you mind if I gave you a hug?”
- “I really want to hug you right now, if you don’t mind.”
- “Would it bother you if I hugged you?”
Look for chances to hug during the conversation.
Look for a fun moment in the conversation to ask for a hug. You don’t have to save hugs for the beginning or end of a conversation. Find a good opportunity while chatting, like when both of you are laughing. You could say:
- “I need a hug after hearing a joke like that!”
- “Sounds like you need a hug, huh?”
- “Come here, let’s hug!”
Send some cute hugging emojis.
The heart-eyed smiley face isn’t the only way to flirt. Next time you text that person, open the emoji keyboard on your phone and scroll down to the “hug” emoji (🤗). Send a few of these instead of your usual emojis. If you’re lucky, the person you like may return the affection and “hug” you back!
Make hugging part of your daily routine.
Make hugging friends and loved ones a habit. If the person you secretly like sees you often hugging friends and family, they may feel more comfortable and be open to hugging you. Plus, the hug with them will feel more natural if you're used to hugging others.
- Try hanging out with that person and a group of friends. Hug all your friends first, then ask for a hug from the person you like.
Give a quick and sweet hug.
Long hugs can make things awkward and uncomfortable. When hugging your crush, you don’t want to make them feel suffocated, right? Keep the hug to about 3 seconds – this is the average length of a hug for most people.
- Once you and the person feel more at ease, you can hug a little longer!
Observe their body language to see if they want a hug.
Your crush might not be in the mood for close contact. Some people love hugs, while others don’t like being touched too much. Before moving in, pay attention to their body language. If they’re comfortable with a hug, they might lean toward you; if not, they’ll likely stand straight. If they don’t seem interested, maybe wait for another opportunity.
- If interested, a guy might raise his eyebrows, slightly part his lips, flare his nostrils, or run his fingers through his hair.
- A girl who’s into you might smile, tilt her head, glance at you, or flip her hair.
