How to Use Your Hands While Kissing

Kissing someone is far from trivial! You want everything to go smoothly, but you might not know what to do with your hands during the kiss. Many people face this dilemma too! Fortunately, there are many options for you! Try holding hands, gently touching their face, or wrapping your arms around them. If both of you are ready to take things a little further, you can pull them closer, explore their body, or even start undressing them while kissing.

Gently touch their waist. This is a good choice if you’ve never kissed them before and aren’t sure what to do with your hands. Lightly place your hands on their waist or gently rest them on their hips while kissing.

Hold their hand. Try holding one of their hands and gently caressing it. You can also try holding both their hands and interlocking your fingers while kissing. This is a great choice if you feel really close to them, and the sensation will be very sweet.

Touch their face. This gesture adds intimacy to the kiss. You can cup their face with both hands and gently pull them closer to your face. You can also try caressing their cheek, neck, or even their earlobe. The ears are a sensitive area, so gentle touches here can be quite sensual!

Run your hands through their hair. Slide your fingers from both hands through their hair. Be slow and gentle! If they have long hair, you can even twist a few strands around your finger while kissing.

• If you want to be a bit adventurous, try gently tugging on their hair because some people like that! This gesture is only suitable for someone you feel really close to. It’s not the best idea if it’s your first kiss with them.

Wrap your arms around them. This gesture shows that you’re enjoying the kiss. Depending on your height and comfort, you can wrap both arms around their shoulders or waist. Either way works!

Use both hands to end the kiss. When you’re about to end the kiss, you can remove your hands from their body. Typically, this signals that you want to stop kissing, but if they don’t understand, you can gently push on their chest (for a man) or shoulder (for a woman) to signal the end.

Move slowly and observe the other person's reactions. A gentle first kiss suddenly turning into a more intimate gesture may make many people feel awkward or even uncomfortable. It's best to test the waters before moving forward. Are they pulling you closer and responding to your kiss? When you increase the intimacy, do they reciprocate with a similar gesture?

• If you're unsure how the other person feels, ask them what they want. If you're hesitant to ask, try making a more intimate gesture and whisper, 'Is this okay?'

Pull them closer to you. If you want to elevate the kiss, gently wrap your arms around their waist and pull them in until your bodies are pressed together like you're embracing each other. Move slowly and avoid crashing into each other! Slow movements create a more intimate feeling and give them time to respond to what's happening.

Guide their hand with yours. Show them what you like by placing their hand on your body. For example, you can place their hand on your back, arm, waist, or even your thigh. If they seem uncomfortable or resist, let go and slow down.

Slip both hands into their back pockets. If the person is wearing jeans, you can slide your hands into their back pockets. This gesture not only draws them closer to you but also serves as a way to make more intimate contact through their clothing.

Explore their body. If you're in a private space, feeling comfortable with each other, and both of you desire more than just a kiss, you can start exploring their body with your hands. Slide your hand under their shirt to feel their stomach and chest, or trace your fingers down their arms and along their back.

• If you’re confident that the other person is comfortable with taking things further, you may use both hands to undress them. Unbutton their shirt, unzip their pants, or remove a piece of their clothing. Move slowly to gauge their reactions. If they seem hesitant, slow down.

• Do only what feels natural while kissing. If you feel awkward or uncomfortable, it will show. Sometimes the best approach is not to overthink and just let things unfold naturally.
• Use your judgment to determine how far to take things with your hands and where to place them while kissing. Consider your relationship with the other person and how long you've been fond of each other. Make sure they are always comfortable with what’s happening.

• Never let the other person pressure you into doing things you're not comfortable with, especially sexual intercourse.
• Always consider the context (e.g., public or private setting) to assess what is appropriate when kissing and touching.