1. Understand your child's inner world
Children also have their own inner worlds and expect their parents to genuinely care and understand them. Parents must be the kind of supportive friend that children feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and emotions with. To truly grasp a child's emotional world, parents can read books or stories suited to their child's age, which will help them better understand the psychology of children in general, and their own child's mindset specifically.
Expressing affection toward your child is essential for their emotional well-being and overall development. The bond between parent and child plays a crucial role in the child’s emotional growth. However, love isn’t just about words—it’s also expressed through actions such as listening to their feelings, showing care, and actively nurturing them.


2. Stimulate your child's spirit
Stimulating a child's spirit is essential for deepening the emotional connection between parents and children. Don't assume that scolding or staying silent when your child makes a mistake or feels down is the best approach. The most effective emotional boost in such moments is genuine attention, words of encouragement, and the reassurance that someone cares. This helps motivate your child to keep going.
Parents should never withhold praise. What may seem like a simple compliment to you can make a child feel proud of their achievements, inspire them to do even better, and build their confidence as they go through new experiences.


3. Fair and reasonable rewards and consequences
If there's favoritism between sons and daughters within the family, it can be deeply unsettling for children. They may feel neglected, isolated, and unloved by their parents. Therefore, parents should ensure they treat their children equally, preventing feelings of neglect, which could hinder understanding and communication. When it comes to rewarding or disciplining children, it's crucial that these actions are not only fair but also timely, appropriate, and balanced, ensuring the desired results.
Parents must remember that children do not require rigid, authoritarian discipline. Instead, they thrive on encouragement and praise. A simple compliment can strengthen the bond between parent and child, bring joy to the child, and fuel their creativity.


4. Learn to cooperate and share with your child
Parents should teach their children the importance of sharing with friends—whether it's their thoughts, joys, or sorrows. They should guide their children to celebrate their friends' happiness and offer support during difficult times. Once children learn to share, parents should help them appreciate the significance of family bonds and the power of affection within the home.
When a child faces failure, parents must remain calm and offer patient encouragement. Words of affirmation can help lift the child's spirits. It's also essential that parents adopt a supportive attitude when their child receives a bad grade, fails an exam, or experiences any setbacks. In such situations, the first rule is that parents should never scold or add extra pressure. Instead of just telling them to try harder next time, parents need to provide the motivation and support that will help them overcome challenges.


5. Parents should view things from their child's perspective
Parents often scold their children because they don’t meet their expectations. However, just like adults, children have their own reasons for their actions. If parents pay closer attention, they will realize that children view situations from a very different perspective. Understanding this means parents can empathize with their children.
Parents should always teach their children that life is full of challenges, and even when they stumble, they can count on their parents' unwavering support, no matter whether they succeed or fail. This gives children the confidence to experience life freely. Always be there to encourage your child and provide support when needed.


6. Value effort over results
Sometimes, the things children do don’t turn out as expected, such as not cleaning the house thoroughly, not taking care of younger siblings properly, or receiving a low grade in school. Many parents immediately scold their children. However, parents need to understand that no child wants to fail. It’s possible the child has put in their best effort but didn’t achieve the desired result, or there may be other reasons behind it. Therefore, parents should seek to understand the cause, have a conversation with the child, and encourage their effort and process, rather than focusing solely on the poor result.
Appreciating a child's effort has a profound impact on their mindset, helping them to remain resilient in the face of failure, and seeing challenges as opportunities for growth and discovery in life.


7. Quan sát cảm xúc và biết sở thích của trẻ
“ Quan sát trẻ” là bước đầu tiên để tiến hành giáo dục. Dù là thầy cô hay cha mẹ đều phải biết cách quan sát từng của chỉ, lời nói, sở thích, sự thay đổi cảm xúc của trẻ. Khi nhận ra trẻ giận dữ hoặc buồn bã không rõ nguyên nhân, hãy dừng lại tìm hiểu xem trẻ đang gặp phải chuyện gì, lắng nghe tâm sự của trẻ và đồng thời hướng dẫn trẻ nhận thức đúng đắn và xóa bỏ cảm xúc tiêu cực.
Mỗi đứa trẻ đều có những nguyện vọng, yêu cầu và sở thích của mình. Cha mẹ cần phải tìm hiểu sở thích của con,biết con mình thích cái gì và có hứng thú với điều gì. Bởi vì hứng thú vô cùng quan trọng đối với sự phát triển của trẻ.


8. Always listen
Some parents tend to ignore or appear disinterested when their children talk, which can make the child feel unnoticed. Many sensitive children may even think their parents don't love them. This disconnect can create a growing gap between parents and children, hindering mutual understanding.
Being a parent is perhaps the most challenging job in the world. It requires dedication and time to ensure the child’s overall development. Throughout the parenting journey, understanding each other's emotions is often the most difficult task. Raising and understanding your child is an ongoing process that must be approached with awareness, especially at each stage of development. Children need their parents more than they may realize. Imagine being a child, when the joys of life are not shared and inner frustrations are not expressed—this could lead to a very negative and disillusioned view of life. Therefore, always make time to listen and talk to your child.


9. Avoid showing anger toward your child
Reprimands and criticism are fundamental parenting tools. However, before scolding, parents should assess whether the child's mistake was something they should have been allowed to make. Constructive criticism is the only type that children will accept, while any harsh words can provoke anger and resistance. It's essential to keep reprimands moderate and balanced.
Many parents believe that showing anger or acting stern when their child misbehaves will instill fear and discipline. However, this only makes the child scared, not understanding or at peace. The child will suppress their emotions rather than resolve them. Therefore, when a child is upset, parents should respond with concern and care, not with aggression. Sometimes, even a stern look can make a child fearful and hesitant to approach.


10. Spend quality time with your child
Modern life and work often keep parents busy, leaving little time to be with their children. Yet, children need emotional support and bonding with their parents, such as sharing meals, watching movies together, and having meaningful conversations. Without this, children may feel emotionally neglected and disconnected, which can lead to behavioral issues or psychological problems. Therefore, it’s important for parents to carefully manage their time and ensure they spend quality moments with their kids.
Parents should intentionally dedicate time to show affection and care, so that children feel the love and support they need. This strengthens the child's confidence and ensures they develop holistically, knowing that their parents are always by their side.

